Dusky Conure bites hard enough to draw blood
I'm not sure where to begin but here goes. Four years ago my wife got it in her head on impulse to buy a bird because she always wanted one. She bought a Dusky Conure. At first the bird perched on me w/o incident but at some point the bird began biting me and unfortunately i reacted harshly (especially when she drew blood) I either swung at it or threw water on it as punishment.
The bird does not bite my wife (a nip here or there but never any blood)If i try to take it out of it's cage these days it will corner itself and open its beak while hissing at me, lunging at times with its beak open. If i'm outside the cage looking at it, it will begin running its beak back and forth along one of the cage bars while hissing at me(i get the feeling its sharpening its beak for the upcoming planned assault) I certainly can't trust it on my shoulder any longer nor do i attempt to pick it up anymore. I still feed it, give it the treats it likes and change its water etc but the bird obviously doesn't appreciate any of it.
Since i can't trust it anymore and it seems it hates me i told my wife the bird has to go. I wouldn't tolerate a dog or cat acting this way in my home, i'm not going to allow the bird to bite either.
She's heartbroken about it but she doesn't understand that while she may have a positive relationship with this bird, i have a negative one. A friend who owns birds says my relationship with this bird is likely broken forever because the bird will never like or trust me again no matter what i try to do to reconcile now.
I don't hate the bird but i never wanted it either. The noise and the pooping all over the place is more than a nuisance. When you add the biting it becomes intolerable. I did try to get along and i enjoyed its antics until it started to bite me. Now i'm no longer comfortable around it. I only REACTED to the bird biting me, i didn't scream, or throw water, at it UNTIL it became aggressive.
I guess my question is, is my friend right or can something be done to help the situation? If not then what's the best way to get rid of it? Can i just let it out on it's own (its 4 years old now and has been with us since it was 3 months old, i have serious doubts it would survive in the wild) Are there any animal shelters for birds that will take this animal? Any information would be appreciated
Sorry about the length of the letter but i had to explain the whole situation.