Kindness or Hatred From My Bird?

by Troubled Girl
(Canada)

My cockatiel is about 3 years old and she is a rescue bird. I got her last week, and she kept screaming at me when I left her. Today, I had her on my leg and I wiggled my finger at her, and she laid her beak down so that the round top part was face down n my leg. Is this showing anger or love?

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May 27, 2011
Rescued birds
by: Anonymous

She is certainly wanting your attention. If she had been abused or neglected, she would not act like she does. An abused birdwill almost always bite anyone. I own and operate a Bird Rescue Company, not for profit but for the well being of birds. I rehab if possible, which usually is the case and have encountered many abused birds, virtually none of them will let you hold them without trying to take a chunk of skin out of you!! But do the bird a favor, have her checked out by an Avian Vet. If you need one, please post here and I will find you one.

May 22, 2011
Kindness or hatred from bird?
by: Tracie

In my opinion, it may be affection. Really, nobody knows but the bird. In my experience, if a bird is angry or dislikes what you are doing it will show aggression by fluffing and lunging at you or go ahead and bite you.

You might want to read up on how to read the body language of birds and also some training materials on our Parrot Training page.

May 21, 2011
Kindness or Hatred From My Bird?
by: Linda

First of all, your new rescue bird needs to be seen immediately by an Avian Vet in your area. She needs to be checked for infections as well as have basic blood work done to see how her organs are functioning. It is possible and actually likely that she has been neglected to the point of being starved and also physically abused. An x-ray or two would be good to see if any of her bones have been broken in the past.

The behavior you spoke of is her taking a subordinate position in front of your wagging finger which could have become a lethal slap with a full hand in her previous life. No more finger wagging or any other moves that can be seen as aggressive.

My point here is you have rescued a special needs bird, and you must not worry about love or hate at this point. This bird has been hurt physically and emotionally and needs your full support to get better. As for the screaming when you leave her, you'll need to work on that, and there are some training materials on this site. Do not even think about any training until your bird has been examined by an avian vet including an x-ray or two to see if people have broken her bones in her past life.

Take it one day at a time and remember that you don't need to spoil her, you just need to let her know you can be trusted, and this could take the better part of a year or even more.

Thanks for taking her in, and now do what you have to do to take proper care of her and let her know that all humans are not cruel and hateful. Her trust has been broken as well as her little body, so slow down and understand your bird from your bird's point of view and stop worrying about how she views you. She views you as another potential cruel, hateful person, so you need to counter that with high quality foods, a nice safe cage with safe toys, trips to avian vet when she is ill or injured and training so she can learn how to be a good bird without someone trying to slap it into her. Lots of work and lots of commitment needed here, make NO mistake about it.

Linda

May 21, 2011
KINDNESS
by: nell

lol i have 2 tiels and trust me they bite when angered from my experience it wanted you to rub it screaming is a demand for attention.

May 21, 2011
Sounds like love to me!
by: Jani

If she's screaming when you leave, that's her calling to you to come back.

It's not a good habit to re-enforce, so NEVER go back when she's screaming. It may take a few long absences, but she'll get the idea. I had a few long, long walks around the block before my parrot stopped making a really annoying telephone noise to get me to come back!! The idea is to go back when she's quiet, so she learns that's the way to get you to come to her, not screaming.

The head down may be asking for 'tickles' and is certainly a sign of love as she wouldn't do that if she was afraid of you. They find scratches or strokes on the back of the neck reassuring.

Read as much as you can, because one thing I found was a HUGE communication gap between us and birds. I recommend Chet Womach, Barbara Heidenreich and the best person of all I've found for advice is Greg Glendell -http://www.greg-parrots.co.uk/ who really has helped me a lot.

May 21, 2011
Sounds like love to me!
by: Jani

If she's screaming when you leave, that's her calling to you to come back.

It's not a good habit to re-enforce, so NEVER go back when she's screaming. It may take a few long absences, but she'll get the idea. I had a few long, long walks around the block before my parrot stopped making a really annoying telephone noise to get me to come back!! The idea is to go back when she's quiet, so she learns that's the way to get you to come to her, not screaming.

The head down may be asking for 'tickles' and is certainly a sign of love as she wouldn't do that if she was afraid of you. They find scratches or strokes on the back of the neck reassuring.

Read as much as you can, because one thing I found was a HUGE communication gap between us and birds. I recommend Chet Womach, Barbara Heidenreich and the best person of all I've found for advice is Greg Glendell -http://www.greg-parrots.co.uk/ who really has helped me a lot.

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