My little girl conure died in my hands yesterday because of my ignorance!

by Cara
(N.J.)

Close up of Pauline and her coloration

Close up of Pauline and her coloration

Close up of Pauline and her coloration
Pauline and my puppy Isidore
Pauline on the kitchen faucet

My little sun/hybrid conure Pauline, named after my mother, passed away yesterday in my hands. Pauline was very attentive, loving and would eagerly stand on anyone's finger, including strangers. When I talked to her she always became very quiet and would listen intently. In the last few weeks she had been mumbling something and two of my friends said she was trying to talk. Sure enough, she began saying "Wait, Wait!" I realized how much I repeat those words to my little pup. Everytime I filled Pauline's little stainless steel water bowl, she would almost curve her whole body in almost a closed U shape position. Then layed like that in the water dish. The last few days she started staying on the bottom of the cage. I had just put down a new type of liner (we-we pads for dogs). I ran out of the ones with taped edges. She started staying on the bottom of the cage and pulling at the pad. I inserted it as flat as I could but she managed to get it anyway. In the last 2 days I noticed her feathers were fluffed, spikey looking with each hair separated as if I put gel into her head. Sometimes her feathers fanned out but had had this beautiful blending appearance that created an awesome, miraculous sheen of coloration. At those times, although she did not say, hey! look at me, I immediately took notice and said oh, what a pretty girl. I looked at her stool about a week ago and it looked somewhat watery. Believe it or not, I am embarrassed to say I am an R.N. Although, I pick up minor changes in human patients, I never knew about birds. Do birds cry out loud? They do and I did not realize it. Before going to bed for the night, I said Pauline, are you ok? She seemed to be opening and closing her mouth but came up to me by nestling her body against the bars so I could rub her head. The past few days she was crying with a low voice but a high little whistling pitch lasting about 15 or 20 seconds. I thought she might have been mimicking something I had been saying or wondered if this was a sign of illness? My friend, a bird expert, had seen her the day before. She said, I think she is making a nest and laying eggs. I stupidly said, how in the world can a female bird lay eggs without a man? Another thing I realize I was doing was spraying my carpet with lysol without ever thinking this would affect Pauline. Although my dog has fewer accidents now, when he does, it is right next to the bird cage. Another important oversight, was Pauline ALWAYS drank a lot and messed up her water every day by dunking her food in it. Her water bowl was clear and not discolored as usual. I killed my bird with my stupidity and ignorance. I leapt up while in the middle of doing something the following day to check on her and she was lying on her side on the bottom of the cage. Her eyes blinked. I grabbed her and she was cold. I screamed a blood curdling cry, Wake up! Get up! Suddenly her eyes became lifeless, began receding and a clear but blackened fluid film covered them. The hair that overlapped her tiny ears flattened back exposing the miniscule orifice that allowed her to listen to natures songs and all the happiness she responded to hearing my voice. She was gone. My bird Pauline loved me but my neglect caused her demise. I am sure that most bird lovers would call me a bird brain or worse. As a nurse, I’ve learned never to take anything for granted. Sometimes people don’t know things you might expect them to understand. All I can say is any change in your bird’s behavior may be a cause for concern. I am generally never neglectful of my pets and usually overly cautious. A difference in behavior may mean nothing, but it is better to be air on the side of caution and get it checked out by an expert. I didn't take my own advice. I had read that spikey fanning feathers may mean the bird is not in a good mood but they outlive humans. I had no idea that it could mean they are sick. Sorry for the long drawn out story but for those few who question something odd that you can’t pinpoint, it’s best not to play doctor or nurse as I did because it may be too late. It may cause the loss of a life that always a smile on your face. I buried Pauline surrounding her with the "Forget me not" flowers around my house in memory of my mother, Pauline and now my little conure Pauline. I am sorry I had not seen this extremely informational site before. I will recommend it to other bird lovers so that they become educated in identifying signs that maybe a potential problem. Sincerely, Cara

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Dec 02, 2016
Heart broken
by: Alcapone

I'm a bird mother who raises and domesticates birds.

I bought a dusky for my boyfriend of 6 years. Duskies being a magicians favorite bird tend to be escape artists...

Well trained as a pup Tyson fell in love with him. He could fly to your finer, tell you to pick him up... It's been a little over a week. I came home late from work last night to find the dusky out of his cage but thought he was hanging out with my other birds on perch.

Little did I know he was cuddling him. :/ I told him never to do this but it slipt his mind... he just wants to cuddle him as he lay. not knowing; I left him on the couch to sleep in the bed....

If I knew I would have woke him.. Grabbed the bird warned him.. I woke up to him crying... Weeping. Rocking his lifeless body he said I thought I heard a squeak Krista. I killed him. Omg why didn't I just out him back? He's still alive. Rocking his hardening body. His eyes told me it had been almost half an hour. I see them die often raising. I knew right away before walking into the room. I've never seen him cry that hard. Perhaps after his mother passed..

I trained him and raised him... It's hard. I hand fed him to give him a better life. Tyson is so hurt... What do I say? What could I ever say to make it right? He lost his new best friend. He finally is resting... I don't know what to say to make him not feel god awful. I just wanted to bring him a bit of happiness with a new buddy. Now I feel I caused depression. Fml

Dec 01, 2016
HEART BREAK
by: ISH

I am so sorry about your lost. I understand how you feel. My RN daughter gave me my Pasha ( pachan) that I fell in love with. He is only 8 months old. on THANKSGIVING DAY HE DROWNED IN MY FISH TANK. how could I not see this coming since he always sit on the edge and look out the window to the birds outside as a daily routine.

only thing I can think of is he ws crazy about water and tried to take a bath and couldn't get out. no one was home. I dont put him in his house day time and I left him and my cockatiel Cooky 10000 times befor. just to see them so happpy when i open the door or screaming together when I put my alarm on befor I leave the house. I have been crying... I still hear his calling and kisses. and I feel the nibbles on my ears . he was crazy about food. I told people I have a cat because if a dish not covered he will eat it.

when does this pain go away..I dont think it will at all..he wasnt done living...eating..taking showers with me...or dancing for my sons songs...

I will never dance again the way I danced with him... I cant look at the fish tank..I still see his lifeless body floating..his pink feet turned white his mouth opened..thats all I saw...I asked my son to burry him in my garden.I havent been out to the garden yet but I look out the window and cry...all him and wait for him to call me back...my heart broken , my thanksgiving years will never be the same...why didnt i cover the fish tank...did I really thought he knows what he is doing !!! I was looking forward to growing old with him..

i miss you Pachan...I cant wait to see you in the other side...I just cant ...I know you see me crying for you and I HOPE YOU KNOW HOW MUCH i LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU..

thank you for letting me write this much..

Nov 27, 2016
Pour Evie😳
by: Anonymous

I put my bird Evie outside in her small tree,
Then I went inside two minutes later I hear Evie
Scream and a hawk then I turn around and she's gone!i looked everywhere but I couldn't find her


Please don't make the same Mistake!😳

Nov 26, 2016
My sun conure Artie died on our bed
by: Ellen Medina

I had Artie since April 2008 when I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and had been my loving and caring bird until today. She loved to cuddle and kiss me so I made her a little "nest like" bed and slept with me and my husband every night. She would wake us up in the morning when it's time for her to poop and will fly over to her cage. I noticed she had been quiet last 2 days but didn't bother, I thought she was just getting nice to our neighbors as she had been noisy all those times. This morning was really unusual for her to be really quiet as she would always tweet when she hears car is parked and someone is coming home - we all know our pets have a very good sense of hearing and smell. Me and my husband didn't realized that we're missing her, she slept under the pillow and found her dead this afternoon. It seems to me that she showed signs that we are going to lose her but didn't pay attention - I should have and could have saved her life. May she rest in peace. Tomorrow is my birthday and I'm been crying all day. I will forever remember my lovely and beautiful conure named Artie.

Nov 24, 2016
My bird died in my hands too
by: Anonymous

My little blue parrotlets lucy and I were inseparable for 7 years. I had just nursed her back to health after a broken leg and she was in
Perfect health.
I was wrapping gifts with her on my shoulder. She jumped down excited and broke her neck. She died in my hands. I can't stop crying. It's been 5 days and I'm so
Lost without her. I feel horrible guilt when does this grief leave us.
Cyndy

Nov 21, 2016
So sorry to hear of your loss
by: Jack

So sorry to hear of your loss

Nov 13, 2016
Sad day
by: Anonymous

My conure loves cuddling in the bed with me for 15 minutes before I took him to his cage every night. Last night I fell asleep with him in the bed with me and I woke up this morning and he was dead. I am devastated he was my baby please don't make the same mistake.

Oct 24, 2016
Great loss...
by: Anonymous

Sorry, to hear about your little girl....:(

Oct 17, 2016
Sorry for your sad story
by: weebirdies

Dear Cara,

So sorry for your loss of lovely little Pauline. You told a loving, poignant story about a beautiful little creature who loved you dearly.

Birds are amazing... Most people who have never bonded with birds don't know this.

Birds are so subtle about telling us that they don't feel well. I have found too, with loss, that we must pay attention to those vague signs and ask if something is going on.

Best wishes to you.


Oct 16, 2016
so sorry about your loss
by: broken hearted

So sad to read everyone's comments. I lost my green cheek Zazu last Wednesday. I am so hearbroken don't know what to say...I cant function without him. He spent every day and night while hes up on my shoulder. Kisses me always was soooh intelligent I blame myself for not taking better care of him, looks like he flew too fast and hit himself into the glass doors. He said "see you" to mus when we leave and everynight he wuld say sleep around 10 if I don't put him to bed, he will say his name really loud if he needs me to take him, I miss himsoooh much and wonder if anyone know of a support group I can join as I am totally lost without my best friend.

Oct 12, 2016
Dont become doctors take expert advice
by: Piyush-India(Delhi)

I had picked up two Budgies CupCake and Muffin , my two pretty birds in May 2016. Both were really chirpy and playful with each other. I could never make out who was male or female but the person who sold them knew that both were not same sex. I was quite casual in terms of their food and water, thinking their eating habits will be same as any bird. But we loved them especially my kids who were extra careful with her and let them fly in the room and play with them occasionally. I always thought they being birds should be kept in cage in the open as much as possible. And one day when they were outside in their cage a crow poked his beak into one of the budgies - Cupcake. She had a broken leg and could not walk. I couldn't find any vet for birds in the neighborhood so I went to a charitable hospital for animals where the doctor put some Betadine bandaged him and gave me homeopathic medicine to treat her. I treated her and watched her regularly and she was soon back on her feat. Whille doing this I got somewhat close to the birds and started taking better care of them. It was after a month or so the one who was attacked showed signs of sluggishness one day and died the other day when we got up. I thought it was because I didn't feed them properly and the cage was not clean. I felt really sorry buried her at the backyard and then started taking much more care of Muffin the other one, cleaned waterfood cage regularly. She seemed to be fine and happy in a day or two and I thought of getting a companion, I saw that she too loosing some feathers same as my earlier one but thought it could be change of weather since she was otherwise active. My next one joined her couple of weeks back and they immediately became pally, but in a day they both became very quite and started sitting close to each other. Muffin started become fluffy and sleepy and I thought maybe she is about to lay egg. But just couple of days back I thought let me take my new one and show at the pet shop ( lack of pets for birds in this part of country). She died before reaching the Pet and I was told Muffin too might not survive. I was told about a doctor in another older part of my City ( Delhi). Since I had to leave for work I thought of showing her next day. Which I did and the doc there gave an antibiotic, liver medicine and a pain killer. I came back and fed her with a lot of effort but by evening she too was dead. My advice is read about an animal and how to keep it before buying, ensure you have a doctor close by because he is the best judge, your assumption is not a conclusion so always keep taking expert advice. We all love you Cupcake, Muffin and Bubble, I am sorry I was unable to take care of you, we all enjoyed every moment with you, hope it was the same with you. RIP

Oct 06, 2016
Guilt
by: Anonymous

I lost my conure 6-years ago due to my neglect. I was only 18 years old and I had other issues in my life at the time. I did not care for her as well as I could have. She needed her food bowl changed when I found her. I feel so guilty. For the past 6-years all I've felt is remorse and guilt. She was the MOST GORGEOUS CONURE ever and I killed her. I will never get over this and will take this grief to the grave with me.

Thank you so much for your post, forcing me to write this.

I'm sending love and have so much empathy with you xxx

Oct 05, 2016
Sick pet birds
by: Ria R.

I lost a little conure I loved due to my negligence about what is and isn't normal breathing. He had aspergillosis and died in my hands. That was YEARS ago. No you won't forget. Right now I have an African Gray that is snoring. She has an appt. in the morning. I pay attention now. Been there. You are not alone. People beat themselves up over this. And I'd lose another bird if I listened to my husband. Birds look sick you take them in right away 1-2 days tops or regret it. I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no words and suffer the same.


Oct 03, 2016
Lost my beloved conure
by: WallyNola

I'm so sorry for your loss. I cried as I read your post. I lost my sweet little Wally just 3 days ago due to my negligence. I absentmindedly left his cage door open and my dog got to him and killed him. My heart is in pieces. Wally was so sweet and every time he heard my voice he would make the kissing sound so I would give him a kiss. He brightened my day and was a source of happiness for me. Yet I failed him by one foolish oversight. He lost his life because of me.

Sep 29, 2016
Your little girl....
by: Kim

Thank you for your post. My wonderful GCC is sneezing a great deal and cannot keep her eyes open. I was debating about getting her in immediately or waiting for an appointment in a couple of days. I will find someone today. Thank you for your loving comments about your little girl. I adore mine and cannot believe how much joy she brings to our household. Sorry for you immense loss!

Sep 16, 2016
To Barb
by: Senegal

Sorry about Olivia. I'm sure it's been hard on you. I believe you did the right thing in getting another feather baby. I hope everything works for you and your pets.

Sep 09, 2016
About your baby
by: Barb Scarantino, RN

Hi. I feel your pain. I had my Quaker parrot, Olivia, euthanised this past Sunday at the Small Clinic at MSU (East Lansing, MI)

I did not take her outside, so I did not clip her wings. She would fly onto my shoulder,fly into the bathroom to be with me.

Well....I, also, have two cats. Mary is nearly 14 yrs old, gentile and as feminine as a girl cat could be. She NEVER paid attention to Olivia.

Simba, my young boy cat was interested. When I come home from work, Oncology, hospital..I sit at my kitchen table and play on my computer. Olivia would be on my shoulder with Mary and Simba hanging out on the table, in front of an open window.

Simba would reach his arms/paws to touch her. I, always, stopped him.

I left Olivia's cage (house) open when I was gone.
After seven years, this was fine.

Long story short, I believe bit or clawed her....Over a three day period...she got closer to death,so I chose to have her uethanised.

My heart is broken. I am a believer in the Lord. I KNOW that I will be with her again.

Dumnb fucing me.

Well....I cannot replace Olivia....I went to Preuss Pets in Lansing. (google this)...These people are extrordinary!

So, I can fill the hole in my heart. Yesterday, I went to Preuss (that is their last name and I love how they know fish..freshwater and salt, reptiles and birds... birds r the biggest.....

I purchased...hate how that sounds, like I am buying a piece of furniture....Chose a Pineapple Cheeked Conure.

Named her Olive in memory of Olivia.

Can't pay in full til five weeks from now. Visited her today. She is five mos old. Very looking forward to us getting to know one another.

Lesson LEARNED.....When I am gone cage will be closed

Talk about feelig guilty....

You and I cannot hang onto that, our babies would not want us to feel this way.

I have had shit sleep...taking a trazadone and going to sleep. Hopefully.

Call me if u want to talk..

Sincerely,

Barb


Aug 21, 2016
To jack
by: Senegal

Thank you for your kind words, Jack. They truly mean a lot to me and helps me through this sad time. I'm sorry to hear that you've been in a terrible situation such as mine and have move on and have learned from that. Really, thank you so much. Best wishes to you and your four feather babies.

Aug 19, 2016
Your beautiful gold cap
by: James

I feel so bad for you I know how sweet they are as all conures i know i would want to kill my self if my green cheek got sick i had other birds if i think about what happened to them i get so sad I was searching to see why my green cheek out of breath & panting when he flies always did for 8years I can't answer cheeky is my only real friend I ever have i think no 1 wounld feel like i do & the way parrots take to me I could be wrong.

Aug 16, 2016
To Senegal
by: Jack

so sorry for your loss - I too have lost birds to other animals years ago, I think I know something of what you are going through - I currently am looking after 4 birds, and no other animals are allowed in the house - when things go wrong, it happens in a hurry - thanks for sharing and wishing you good luck in the future

Aug 15, 2016
Senegal
by: Anonymous

I recently lost my senegal parrot ,Yoshie. I was looking online and found this page with a lot of sad stories. I'm truly sorry hear about everyone's loss and that you are not alone. My baby bird past away and was almost three years old. He was such a great pet. I thrive and try to be the best pet owner possible. However, accident do happen and no matter how much I thought I was a great parrot owner I lost him for being careless and now a life is lost and I'm left with a broken heart. I left his cage open and he flew down and my dog jumped on him. Everything happend soo fast and when I went to go pick him up he died in my hands a few minutes later. I tried to be the best parrot owner by not using chemical cleaner ect. But I still failed him. I still have an other parrot that I need to take care of and use this as a lesson and hopefully for others. This tragedy will not stop me from loving my pets I will continue to share my love in the future with an other parrot. I hope everyone with time will do the same. There are parrots out there who could use are help and love.

Jul 19, 2016
Hey, it's me again
by: Anonymous

I got an email from this website and thought I would just tell everyone that I'm "crying" from down below, and THE BIRD WAS ALIVE
Houdini lived. Me and my best friend searched my room from top to bottom, but we couldn't find him. it was a really hot day, with no air con in my room.
5 hours later, when we went back to continue looking for the body of my bird, we heard a tiny chirp and found Houdini behind the bookcase.
Still no idea how he got out of the cage, I checked it like 5 times that night, but I was so shaken that I gave away both of my canaries, Houdini (real name actually Collipe), and Little Rikki to a lady and her 12 year old daughter.
I didn't mention Houdini's amazing skill, but he hasn't escaped them to my knowledge, and the daughter has actually trained my "crazy" birds to do tricks. Who knew.

Jul 14, 2016
I lost my African Senegal today
by: Anonymous

I lost my african senegal today. When I found her dead at the bottom of the cage, she was still warm. It hurts my heart so badly, I am so sad, I feel so guilty. I am currently pregnant, and she slept in my room, but since I am almost due, I set up a different room and moved her so she would get used to it... she seemed ok, yesterday she did seem weird, like she did not wanted to go out, but I thought she was sleepy. I think she died of sadness, it hurts my heart so bad that she died alone, that she had loneliness in her heart and had to suffer this. Wish I could take back time and do things so different but is too late and she is gone

Jun 06, 2016
to Sharon, comment date April 17, 2016
by: Anonymous

Dear Sharon,

please take your Conure to the vet. please don't think of cost; his/her life is at stake. vets are always willing to get with payments, so please take him to an avian vet asap.

Best to your little guy

May 18, 2016
The most importaint thing:
by: K80theSHADE

I am very sorry for your loss.
I lost my little pigeon-wife last year and it still hurts.
I'm afraid I must have missed the most important part of the story: what did actually cause her death? Did you ever find out for sure?
Thank you.

May 10, 2016
Moth Ball warning too
by: Anonymous

So sorry about your experience- it's very sad. For others information, I had a too similar thing happen to a parakeet from 'moth balls" Please BEWARE. Do not hang moth balls anywhere near your birds (probably other animals too)

May 09, 2016
for 2 year old green cheek loss
by: jack

So very sorry for your loss - We experienced the same kind of thing years ago - looking after 4 birds now and no other animals allowed in the house because of this - I know this is a most difficult thing to experience - I'll be thinking of you for some time now and praying this bad time will pass soon.

May 08, 2016
Sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my 2 year old green cheek a week ago and still can't breathe. My baby died because my husband's dog got into the cage and ....I can't even tell you what happened. The pain is unbearable. Again..I am sorry for your loss.

May 08, 2016
Sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I am so soon for your loss. I just lay my green cheek conure named Sebastian last week and it still hurts so much I can't breathe.

Apr 28, 2016
My sorrow for your loss.
by: Mac

Cara, I recently lost a feathered friend, though the loss was "expected" since he was a sickly bird when I adopted him, it was still hard. The bird rescue said he would probably not last more than 3 or 4 months due to age and health, but I got to love "Go-Go" for almost 2 more years.

I feel your pain and I hope that you are able to find another great feathered companion to love and care for. I also hope you use this as an educational experience and ignore the "haters" comments.

Best wishes to you!

Apr 22, 2016
aerosol, powder, perfume, baking soda,OIL burning heaters
by: Anonymous

AEROSOLES,POWDERS,PERFUMES,CLEANING PRODUCTS,BAKING SODA,OIL BURNING HEATERS: All of these give off offensive
Possibly toxic fumes.
ALL animals (AND most likely
most humans) should be kept away
from these. I have posted several
times about the dangers of these types
of items & products. ALL advice given
to me by an Aviary Vet many years ago
but still useful knowledge TODAY for free
on this page/blog. Please listen. Thanks!
Best wishes to all.

Apr 22, 2016
to Jack and Sharon re: conure anxiety
by: Anonymous

Yes, a radio/TV is perfect for
a at home alone bird as long as
the bird is listening to "calm chat"
or soft music. I pay 4.99
per month for my dog to
interact/listen/watch
DOG TV (on DirecTV) when
I'm not able to do so.
It works, I have proof
on my dvr surveillance
home security system of my
dog being interactive with
the content on that channel
while I am not home.
Maybe even DOG TV would help
with a lonely or bored bird?
If that is the problem.
There are samples of this channel
on YouTube: DOG TV
Best wishes.


Apr 20, 2016
hope this helps
by: jack

I feed my conure pellets from Zupreem and add fruit treats like some banana or apple. I have parakeets and a radio nearby so she has someone to socialize with, and music to listen to when I'm away. As a younger bird, she was harder to handle and was prone to chew up stuff. Hoping this helps. - jack

Apr 19, 2016
to Sharon re: bird
by: Anonymous

My dog "picks up" on stress between me and my husband and she sulks/hides when it occurs. Perhaps that is it with your partner's bird. You said that they are out of work at moment, so perhaps it's stressful conversation that the bird overhears? You can still call an aviary Vet and ask for suggestions at what this might be (maybe the bird is just simply bored?) or ask for a discounted vet visit. No vet wants a pet to suffer.
Best wishes to all.

Apr 17, 2016
Conure
by: Sharon

My partner has a green conure, had him now for 2 years and when I stay (about 3 times a week) we both love him and he's always been happy. He has a large cage but he isn't locked in it. He wasn't when we got him, so we didn't lock him in. All was good until about 10 days ago, he is pulling out the feathers on his chest, and he has stopped bathing and is sleeping all the time, my partner can't afford a vet as he is out of work at mo. There are no dangers in the room and no smellies either, we just don't know what has gone wrong, hate seeing him like this, he doesn't say words, but he isn't making any noise at all now. He won't and never has let us touch him. I don't know what's wrong.

Mar 22, 2016
Please read if you own a bird OR if you are pet-sitting a friends bird
by: Anonymous

This is advice/instruction from an aviary vet in the 1980's. STILL in use today. Do not use any Air fresheners: solid like Glade brand stationary gel and warming plug-in gels and oils,SCENT oil absorbing sticks, automated "sensory" air sprays, canned aerosols of all types(cleaners too) HAIR SPRAYS, and "anti-bacterial" air sprays and vacuum air fresheners (those that you would put inside an vacuum air canister or that you would put in/on your home Air Conditioner air intakes AND aerosol or spray perfumes and body deoderant sprays AND powdered carpet including scented baking soda
AND it is always best to remove- for a couple of days (let a responsible friend/family member keep your birds for a couple of days?!) -your birds from any area where carpets are steam cleaned until carpets are thoroughly dry and then vacuumed a couple of times after drying (change the vacuum bag or clean the bagless vacuum canister before using again).
ALSO, place your birds in another closed off room when mopping any floor with a scented or anti-bacterial type of hard floor steam mop or wood floor cleaners. Allow the cleaned area to have fresh air (keep your birds in a secure cage/closed room). This info was given to me by an aviary (bird) Vet back in 1980's. STILL APPLIES FOR TODAY. Aerosols are not ANYONE HUMAN OR ANY! ANIMAL'S FRIEND and they damage the ozone layer of OUR Earth's atmosphere too.
When in doubt, ALWAYS telephone and ask a Aviary Vet and EDUCATE all your family members and your children about how to be AERSOL safe around ALL inside animals!

Mar 18, 2016
I learnt the hard way
by: Anonymous

hi i read your story and wanted to let you know it happened to me too..... we had a young fischer lovebird in our house. one day she started acting strange, falling off her perch and looking very ridgid.... not eating..... then an hour later she was dead. It was all very quick no puffed feathers or signs of illness like your bird. that day my son went a bit crazy with the air freshner in the bathroom. I also remember him having the fischer out in the room next to the bathroom. they were playing together...... it was that evening the bird died. my son was so upset he made a little box for the bird and we buried it. BUT the moral of this story is this AIR FRESHNERS, HOUSEHOLD CLEANERS ARE DEADLY to our feathered friends!!! I learnt the hard way :(

Mar 16, 2016
conure a year old
by: Jack

My conure has been under the weather recently. I fed her some apple in addition to her regular diet. Made sure she was drinking water, I think this was important. While I sit in a recliner, she liked to be under the lapel of my coat. I stayed still, and she'd take a nap. Very important, I do not snuggle with her in bed, only in the recliner. I use an oil filled radiator heater to give her some gentle heat. I kept it on very low so she would stay comfortable in her cage. Maybe some of this can be helpful. I hope so. I'll be thinking about you and your bird.

Mar 14, 2016
My conure is only a year old
by: Anonymous

My conure is only a year old and suddenly he/she can't hold her/his head up.

I am devastated. I don't have a vet in my area, so I have done telephone conference and all the vet can tell me is she/ he probably had a stroke.

She/he eats fine, poops are good looking. I don't know what to do. Any advise!!!!

Mar 12, 2016
To angry bird mum
by: Anonymous

I'm not sure why you felt the need to come onto this post to badger everyone who is in pain. My bird died, drowning in a toilet. We always kept lids down and bathroom doors closed except for one time. Why? Because we are human. The quilt is beyond comprehension. To everyone here that lost a part of thier heart, please ignore this stupid rant if this holier than thou person. God forbid something happens to her birds. I'm sorry for your losses and I'm sorry this person has zero compassion at a time like this.

Mar 06, 2016
Bye Bye Birdie
by: Mspoppi

Oh I read up on your loss and I was touched.
One day i came home and didn't see my little pineapple baby anywhere. I looked everywhere for her and finally found her on the floor near the couch.
She wasn't looking well and I cradled her in my hands and placed her near my heart where she died...was a sudden death and I never knew the cause of her sudden departure. She wasn't even a year old and I lost her..to this day I wonder was it something I did..
I feel your pain trust me,my little bird was the joy of my life but we can't put the blame on ourselves,we just have to be more observant and watch carefully what our little feathered friends may get in to.
The day my little pineapple died a part of me went with her...I learnt by my mistakes as we all do..but as with everything there will never be another like the one we loss.
I have 2 conures again but they haven't replaced my pineapple but its a start.
God Bless you and your feathered friends.

Mar 06, 2016
my condololences
by: nick

We share as well as many bird fanciers love love love for our two legged friends/pets/children...
have you heard of the rainbow bridge.?..please read it very comforting..you will see your little friend again..our loved ones are waiting for us...in the future always read about your pet before you purchase one/them..they have certain needs that make them uniquely special...my deepest sympathies

Feb 23, 2016
Dear Nurse
by: Anonymous

I know you must have a lot of guilt, but your avian Vet & even the bird store should of educated you! Certainly, if you had known, you wouldn't of used Lysol! You're only human! Because you're a nurse, your expected to not ever make mistakes, or you could loose your license , job, a patient, get sued, or go to prison for one mistake! But don't forget that you're human! You don't have a a degree in animal biology! Don't beat your self up now! Get another bird & learn all the rules! Basically, no chemicals, no heated Teflon, no predtors, no fans, mirrors, uncovered windows. They need direct sunlight with half the cage covered , for relief of sun when needed. No breezes. Nothing below 70 degrees! Don't kiss th.. Our normal flora is different from theirs ( no yogurt chocolate or avacados) . Use reverse isolation tequniqes. They can die from our germs & your dogs germs.. I clean with alcohols& water solution. They need fresh water, fruit & veggies! My two conures have their own room & I let them fly! They need 12 hours of uninterrupted sleep per night! My babies are 25&23 years old ! I have a great vet that taught me the rules! There's a lot to bird keeping💕

Feb 17, 2016
Goodbye Mido
by: Tio

We just lost our 3yr old red cheeked conure named Mido... (short for Midori which means green in Japanese ). Such a senseless accident..he was playing under the sofa and my daughter sat on it and his neck got caught under the bar and broke..he died so quickly in my hands.
We miss him so much. He was the perfect fit for our family..he ate on the table with us from his own plate, was always on someone's shoulder cuddling up at the side of our neck. He loved music and would dance..singing Mido,Mido.
Would you believe he played peek-a-boo? I played with him once when he snuck under my shirt..and he picked up the words...if we covered our face and then revealed ourselves he would say peek-a-boo..or he would hide under a blanket or someone's shirt...pop out and say perk-a-boo.
We never knew to train him when we first got him to poop in his cage...he learned to poop in the garbage. Such a smart bird. Oh! How I miss him.
Our home won't be fve same without him.
Thanks hor letting me share. I had to keep it together I'm front of my kids who were hysterical. I asked them to remember all the good times we had with him. They are devastated.


Feb 17, 2016
Do some research beforehand!
by: Angry Bird Mum

As a very happy owner of 5 awesome conures reading some of the stories here has my blood boiling. My darling pineapple conure died last year because of a seizure, but from the moment she and the other conures entered my life I made sure to take proper care of them. I threw out all things dangerous to them and know exactly what food they cannot have, because I did my research. Although I love all animals, I will never keep a dog or ferret or whatever else even remotely dangerous to them as long as my feathered most precious kiddos are alive. It is only logical that you don't use chemicals around them , keep dangerous animals away from them and sleep with them. The risk some of you took with the lives of your precious bird is beyond stupid! Before getting a bird make sure you know how you are going to take care of them or don't get them at all. I recommend all bird owners to do proper research. There are lots of lethal household items and food that you will propably not know of until it is too late. And for those who killed their birds by crushing them or let their toddlers play with them I say: don't get anymore birds cause you don't deserve them. Birds are not toys and kids should definetely not be around them without supervision. Sleeping with them is also the dumbest thing possible, if you do that you might as well sit on them right now because sooner or later it will go wrong! So please stop doing that, no matter how cute it is. If you have birds do not get dogs or cats. If you have dogs, cats, ferrets , dragons, lions or sharks do not get birds! They will suffer a death that is pure horror for them and yourself when they are attacked by your cute harmless pet! Now excuse me while cuddling my conures will help me reduce the anger produced my some of the stories here.

Feb 04, 2016
Very sad to lose our precious little ones
by: Anonymous

I am so very sorry your little Conure passed away. Our little birds are so precious and so giving, and it is very sad when they become ill. It is unfortunate that the signs of illness are so subtle with birds, that we need to be watchful for any behavioral changes.
I too recently lost my sweetie Dove. Just a few weeks prior, she had arrived home from the hospital because of an infection, which I think she caught from her previous visit to the vet clinic. She was so active and happy being home, but then she injured herself climbing the cage bars, and the emergency hospital could not do much because they aren't avian trained. We had to wait out the weekend until Monday when Avian vets are open, but my little one lost her appetite. I hand fed her as much as I could, but she could not eat enough and passed away Sunday night. I wish I had been holding her when it happened; she needed me the most then. Sad that when birds are ill, it affects them tremendously and to help them, time is surely of the essence. I miss my little Dovey so much. I adopted her when she first hatched as a baby and she has been with me for just over twenty years. I love her so very much, and she has such an adorable personality. She always knew when I needed her beside me. There is no one like her. I will miss her forever. I hope she is in a wonderful place that is pain free, safe and happy flying with friends of her kind. My thoughts are with all of you who have lost our darling little one.

Jan 30, 2016
I lost my Blue Headed Pionus after 13 years by ignorance
by: Anonymous

I just can not admit this but I actually have two birds a conure that is 23 years old and a blue headed pionus who is 13 years old. Taking care of them is very easy especially when you have a set routine. Every morning before going to work I gave both food and water and cleaned their cages each week. I recently going through a divorce and the last 3 weeks was everything that was not routine.
I suddenly found my Kiwi the blue headed pionus with nearly no water or seed. She was clinging onto side of cage making awful lot noises and disorientated. In a panic I gave her water and seed and slice of apple. Kiwi drank water and ate seed and part of the apple slice. 15 minutes later she seemed to recover to my relief. 2 hours later she seemed to be choking on regurgitating food. I held in my hands and held her cupped in my hand upside down with her back in the palm side of my hands. Immediately I sensed she could not breath. I put right side up on the sofa 2 minutes later she died.
Yes, I blame my self and take the responsibility of loosing the only pet that I loved so dear and my support system. I learned the hard way. My mistake was not following a routine, a simple calender to mark every day for feeding of Kiwi to force routine. Mistake two feeding her seed was not right, instead a eye drops with water and baby food. I consulted with a VET and he said she did not suffocate but had a heart attack. Oh my god my whole world is upside down and I am ashamed and cry all the time about the loss of KIWI. God forgive me, I do not deserve a new bird. Yes men do cry. This is the ultimate pain loosing KIWI, not my divorce.

Jan 16, 2016
My bird was a Lovebird
by: Anonymous

My little "Woodchippy" was my little bird. He loved me so much and would nest bird in my clothes and attack any unsuspecting finger who got in his territory. He brought so much life to our family. We all loved him so much. I was grading my son's paper on Thursday night and my daughter came and took the bird to play with. Not an unusual thing, as she really loved Woodchippy a whole lot. She obviously did not see him standing there on our coffee table but she accidentally sat on him, she is 5. He squeaked very loud and my son brought him to me. I held him in my hands knowing he was dying and there was nothing I could do. I held him and said, I love you Woodchippy, I am so sorry, I love you. He died in my hands five minutes later. I had to separate myself from everyone during these five minutes. I sat and rocked him in my rocking chair that night while my little buddy died in my hands. I stayed out there in my rocking chair for 20 minutes before coming in the house. I was there to feel and see him take his last bird breath. I feel so sad. I did not yell at my daughter or say anything to her except that he is gone and he won't come back. She has been having nightmares ever since and when she was ready for bed last night she said I miss Woodchippy Mom, I want him back, and she cried in my arms. I know how she feels. I have not hid my tears from my children, but I don't say much about him. It hurts too much right now. The what if's are horrible, and I completely dislike them, and that is all I can think of right now. RIP my sweet little Woodchippy. I love you. I miss you.

Jan 16, 2016
Just lost my Little Wing, green checked yellow sided conure last week
by: Anonymous

I completely understand your loss, my sweet little wing died in my arms last week. We rushed him to the vet and it was even after hours, but it was too late. He was such an amazing joy to be around and a gift from my husband after I lost a child, I saw him as our little child, he would take baths in my hands if I cupped them under running water in the sink. He said good baby, goodnight, I,love you, etc.Made the cutest kissing noises always! He was also a best friend to our Quaker parrot that was a rescue and needed to be preened by him, they lived together and we're best friends too. I felt he knew my soul too, he was there through really really hard times. He loved to cuddle above me on my pillow, I never let him get lower as not to crush him. My husband and I were out of town for a while to deal with a family emergency and had our home broken into. Of course our birds come with us everywhere, so we drove back three thousand miles to take care of our home, amidst the mess that this man left our home we struggled to clean up the mess that was left. Last week on the eleventh my husband took both of the babies out of their cage to say hi to them, our Quaker got startled by something as my husband sat down on the couch so I went to go and pick him up, that's when we thought little wing followed his brother and amongst the mess my husband and I did not see our baby little wing climb back up the couch and my husband accidentally squished him as little wing was running as he always did really fast so we both missed seeing him. I was always so so protective of him, I wouldn't!t even let me husband take him for car rides or outside unless his wings were clipped. so so awful. As I said we can!t have kids of our own, our birds are our children. I can't help but feel so depressed, I just can't believe he is actually gone. The next morning after he passed I sat down with my Quaker and told him what happened, he seemed as though he understood, he had his head puffed up and bent down and made a noise he never made before. It sounded like a yes, when I asked him to be strong and help mommy get through the,loss. He is now even sweeter than when little wing was here, cuddling even more. He has helped immensely.

Jan 15, 2016
Pauline
by: John, nj

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of Pauline.my 16 yo blue crown conure died suddenly yesterday; had her since 9 weeks old. she stopped talking about 10 days ago; but everything else was normal. she was molting and growing in new feathers; and sometimes i know they get quiet and dont like to be bothered.all other behavior was normal; especialy playing with toys a, eating, and her droppings. i'm a physician and had a bird before and been to the animal medical center in nyc. there are not many true avian vets that can realy diagnose. i found her lying on the bottom of the cage with blood from her mouth,about a hour before i was feeding her pellets.Dont beat yourelf up over this! i so devasted! she was the only one left in my family alive. I'm not sure if i would have taken to a local vet not in acute distress, they would known whats wrong and saved here.My other bird, died of avian tb after i took her to 2 vets and 3 days at cornell vet school. they put him through so much stress and told me it cant be cured anyway.bird are so loving, and when they pass is so much pain. sorry for your loss.

my 16

Jan 13, 2016
So sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I just lost my bird , a sun conure , Butters , today. She too was my everything --- friend , confidante , support system - you name it, she was there. She's seen me through many a tough time in life , and was my ray of sunshine in a sometimes stormy world . A lot of people think it's weird that a bird would be my best friend , but she was. Always on my shoulder , helping me cook , do housework , study , and even sat on the shower curtain railing when I showered . For a time , she would even sleep in the bed with me. Suddenly , she began to lay more eggs than usual , and a noticed a dark purple spot on her belly. She seemed okay though , and since she was making another egg , I thought nothing much of it. She ended up having the egg, but a today we found her dead on the floor ( she had been laying in the bed , as usual ) in the hallway outside room. It appears her clochea is distended and looks to be protruding. My guess is she had a tumor or some sort of embolism. It's amazingly difficult to have her gone. The pain is so raw right now , all I can do is see her cage and cry. I totally understand what you're going through as far as guilt too , cause I wished I'd done something more. Yet , what's done is done , and the birds are in a better place. They were loved in their time with us here , and we need to remember that above all else.

Jan 12, 2016
te: my baby fanta
by: Anonymous

Why do you say that,
what happened to Fanta?

Jan 12, 2016
My baby Fanta
by: Anonymous

Just last night, I was cuddling with my little green cheek. I meant to be with her for only a few minutes but STUPIDLY I just dazed off and fell asleep. I woke up this morning to a dead parrot. I wish i could just replace her but honestly i dont believe i deserve another pet. EVER AGAIN

Jan 07, 2016
i lost my friend
by: deathmittens57@aol.com

my jenday was 11, said over 30 words, was loving and smart. i found her on the bottom of the cage at 3am, she wouldnt move it was a sunday, i moved her to a smaller cage small heater by her then she started looking like she was doing crunches, i thought she was egg bound, but it seems she had a heart attack or a stroke, she was soo vocal, but i never heard her little voice again, she dies in my arms and altho im a man, im still crying, and feel like my hearts breaking. she was the best gift i ever got, and i miss her sooo much.

Jan 05, 2016
Pauline ♡
by: bird/animal luvr

Sorry for your loss of Pauline.
It sounds like you were a very good parent. I was wondering if you
knew that SOME dog training pee pads
are chemically treated with either
natural/unnatural "scents" to
attract the dog to urinate onto
the pad. Perhaps it was that,
or the Lysol/febreeze you used.
For example, my vet told me to
remove my Parakeets from my apt
for 3 days after having the carpets cleaned. They stayed at friends until
my carpets had dried, I vac'd/dusted
and aired the apt out well and then
got the apt back up to normal temperature
before bringing them back in.
Its scary how lung sensitive birds are.
Best wishes to you.

Jan 04, 2016
My canary
by: Crying

My male canary, nicknamed Houdini, died today. The cage he was in, a parrot cage, was IMPOSSIBLE for him to open, and I still to this day have no idea how on earth he did it, but one day, my little "Houdini" got out of his closed cage, out of the curtains around his cage, and started flying around my bedroom, which is where his and my other canry, Little Rikki's cage is. I got him back in after about an hour, but, little did I know, he did the impossible again yesterday. I had no idea, and when I checked on him today, his cage was empty, no signs of life.
I looked around, but still haven't found his tiny body. I have to, clearly, but my bedroom is a mess, and I have asked for help with this body retrieval.
I haven't a clue how he got out, the bars are thick and close together, and the door is hard even for a human to open.

Dec 16, 2015
Birds are wonderful creatures
by: Licia

Dear Cara,
Thank you for sharing what happened with Pauline, your beloved bird, and your feelings with us. I have two budgies and one seems to be sick. The aviary vet visited them - apparently they are both sick - and prescribed an antibiotic and some vitamins. I hope they get back in shape! A couple of months ago Joy, a budgie I had fell sick and shortly after died and I felt very sad. I felt like this little bird could 'understand my soul' - and he loved the music I played! After almost a year together, he was suddenly gone. Especially at the beginning, I missed him so and thought a lot about how I could have prevented him from dying. We bought another companion for the bird who had remained alone and was feeling lonely. I fully understand your love for Pauline and your regret for not knowing what you know now. By the way, I haven’t understood what, according to you, you did wrong. Was it a substance you used for cleaning which was toxic to her? I also felt guilty when Joy died; I thought I should have done this and shouldn't have done that. The thing is, I did the best I could. You took the best care possible of Pauline and I know she felt very loved by you. I never thought I could develop such a strong bond with these small, cute birds but I have! Even if my budgies can't talk, they are so communicative. I like to speak to them in sweet voice and they close their small beady eyed with delight. My 12-year old daughter is also very attentive to them, plays tricks with them and they have good fun together. Are you going to get another little conure Cara? Which of course would never replace Pauline but would mean exchange of other beautiful moments together?
Greetings from Sardinia

Nov 29, 2015
Poor birdy
by: Anonymous

Acctually female birds can lay eggs without a partner. Is horrible really, I use to burn insence around my rats, and I think it contributed to their respiratory infection, I did not know. I have 6 birds now and I am very careful with stuff. Its sad for sure, I understand the feelings you may have against your self, but maybe your story will save many lives. Poor birdy, maybe get a new one or adopt , seems like you are a good bird owner at heart, just read about all the hazard of keeping pet parrots, there are many more , they are sensitive to everything, so many things can kill them from chocolate to teflon pans.

Nov 26, 2015
Pauline
by: ValPotgieter

I am so sorry for u. I think we all make mistakes because we think we know. In time,get another baby. Never the same,but it helps. Lovebirds are so sweet. GoD bless.

Nov 14, 2015
Sorry about Pauline
by: Anonymous

I'm so sorry to hear about your conure. I have a green cheek conure named Riko. He's almost three and we just got another little girl conure named Zoey who's almost two.
I heard about the cleaners, perfumes, smoke, and most anything can harm the bird. I went from using smelly candles, carpet fresh, lysol, and pinesol to using only pinesol and carpet fresh on my floors when the birds are in bed(they have their own room) and a little lysol on pillow cases in a closed room. I do this carefully and not even a quarter as much as I did before I had birds. Again, so sorry to hear of your loss. Now that you know I'm sure you'll be a good pet parent.

Ginger

Oct 18, 2015
In just lost my sweetie pie
by: Anonymous

I had my babybfh for just a few days, I had made the mistake of not researching my cockatiel before getting him, he was still young. But as soon as I got him, I bought everything he needed and more. Today I noticed that when I came in he didn't jump at the cage to get to me, I looked and he was sleep on the bottom of the cage. I thought this must be normal. young then tonight I went to go get him. Again he was at the bottom, and lethargic, I picked him up and noticeand disorientation, first thought qa his blood sugar is down and it was, I brought my baby back from death. This is where I went wrong, I put him inside the cage and didn't close the cage door thinking he would be fine. I woke up with him on the floor head tilted under and rigamortis setting I. I'm so devistated.I am sorry for all of your losses... Praying or you all.

Sep 24, 2015
Healing
by: Doris

Dear Cara and everyone who's hearts are slowly healing from our loss of our best buddies. It's been over 9 months now since my dear male 12 year old Cocktail Birdie flew away because of my negligence. I have been through the depths of despair and am slowly coming back into the living through the love and caring of my family and friends and through finding my faith in God who is helping me every day slowly accept the loss and continue to live by accepting what I cannot change. I am getting better each day but will always love and miss my Birdie. I wish for all who suffer some peace and hope through the love of our Lord Jesus Christ. God Bless, Doris

Sep 22, 2015
Very Sorry
by: Anonymous

I won't go on too much. Just wanted to say I hope you will or have taken a chance on bringing another bird into your life to love. You know more regarding how to keep him/her safe. ;) So many things can be toxic. You have to be careful. It is heartbreaking to loose a loved pet. I lost one last summer so do have much empathy. Know they are in heaven, and happy now. ;) I still talk to my Green Cheeks - Poppy - daily. ;)

Diana, Alaska

Sep 16, 2015
My sweetheart Rio..
by: Akshata

My little baby sun conure Rio stayed with for 2years... Me and my husband were so much bonded to her and we felt n treated her like our little kid.. she gave us so much love.. we wer complete family... Two times she escaped and we called for her and she was waiting for us and she responded back..thank God we got her back and from dat time she never tried to go out.. our day would start wit her and end wit her... Last month don't know how she escaped out of semi half opened door in evening... I called her n she responded.. but it become dark.. n she stopped responding.. we wer confident to find her.. tried searching everywhere.. someone saw hr.. but we couldn't find her... We know she is safe somewhere... Please pray for her.. I want her to b happy..love u baby.. thanks for coming into our lives...

Sep 15, 2015
Vinod
by: Anonymous

I do feel your pain but suiside is not the answer. My bird drowned in the toilet because I didn't shut the door or lid. I cried for months. It was an accident. It was your babies time for what ever reason. You must live on and know you will see your baby on the other side. I still cry, you will still cry. It's ok.

Sep 15, 2015
Lost my most valuable buddy bcoz of me.
by: Vinod T K

Last month I lost my beautiful parrot just bcoz of my ignorance. He was with me for the last 5 years. When I had most of the tough time in my life, he was the inspiration for me to move on.

After my father death my mother was alone staying home and I was forced to relocate bcoz of my job. Even-though mother was very much comfortable bcoz of my little friend. They were really close together and she used to spent most of her time with him.

My parrot loved my mother and my sister most than me. Last month my mother went abroad to be with my sister for 3 months, so I took my bird with me.

I had spent almost 1 month with my bird and used to provide at-most care in the absence of my mother.

One day I went out without closing the cage and later I realised and called my friends who were in room. They said they will take care and I trust them.

Later when I came back room I could see that my parrot was not there. That moment was heartbroken for me. The saddest part is that I already cut his feather bcoz not to fly away from me.

Bcoz of my friends negligence my parrot got missed from the room, and I am sure that it cannot escape his own bcoz it was unable to fly his own.

So I forcefully send my best buddy in this world to death just bcoz of my negligence. Even after passing a months time I am still unable to his memories. Sometimes I feel to commit suicide so that I can reach him.

He was one of the main reason for me to move on as I had lot of tragedies happened in my life.

Now I feel that he went to my father as bcoz my father brought him home for the first time.

Still I can't realize that I am not going to meet him fore ever.

Miss u my "kunju". Forgive me for my mistake which makes me sleepless till date.!!!



Sep 08, 2015
sorry to read that
by: Anonymous

Hi Cara, so sorry about what happened to your bird and thank you for sharing, that help us be more careful with our birds. Are you saying that she died because of spraying lysol on the carpet? Do you think the fumes did it?

Rgds
Rafael

Sep 08, 2015
Lost my Pipsqeek on my Birthday 2 years ago
by: Jim

I never thought I would love one of god's creatures as much as I loved her . She had a companion and they were raised together I homed a Teil and a Conure not giving up on loving a bird and knowing being a Parront is a special thing. I am so glad I did my little Pineapple girl(Bella) and my Latino tiel (Snowflake) are the best healing I could ask for .

Aug 05, 2015
Easton
by: Anonymous

I woke up to find my pineapple green cheek conure lying dead in his cage. I only had him for 4 weeks but I never thought I could fall in love with him like this. I want another bird but no one could ever replace him. And I dont know when to get one and I dont know how to live without him either. We did everything together. Now my house feels empty.

Aug 02, 2015
So Sorry
by: Anonymous

My cockatoo died in my arms April 1st, a day afrer I had surgery. She was only 16. She shared oatmeal with me the day before. She also died in my arms before my husband could get her to the vet. I am still crying today, in August. It was so horrible. I accepted a re-homed Quaker who is very sweet, just last week, but I feel like I let my Rosie down. I really do feel your pain. I hope, as time has passed, that you have been able to forgive yourself. You did the best you could, as did I. Big hug to you.
Karen

Jul 27, 2015
Sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

It has been some time now, and I hope you're feeling better. I also lost a bird unexpectedly and feel responsibility. I've had birds since the '70's and know what I'm doing, but I missed some signs because I had surgery 2 days before she died. The grief was horrible. I said I could never have another bird, but after a few months, I found a little guy who needed a home, and now I have Pickles. He doesn't replace Rosie, but I am falling in love with him. I hope you're feeling better now. Be kind to yourself . I also appreciate everyone else's positive comments.

Jul 17, 2015
south carolina
by: angie

Dear cara, you are not along in this matter i had a porret named ruby because of her beautiful and i got her froma a bredder not to lone after i had her she started to look sad she did not play and even wanted to bit me so i let it do her thing aftera while she was not eating so i took her to the vet they took xray found what might be cancer the vet told me to take her back to the bredder and let there vet take a look well on the way to there vet she die in my arams so i know what you are going through. With birds it is hard to tell so i went to a pet shop and bought a re midrit conjur and his with me 17 years,

Jul 08, 2015
Just a hug
by: Johann

Dear Cara,

I just wanted to give you a long hug.I know how it feels to lose a beloved companion parrot.

Kind wishes;
Johann.

Jun 19, 2015
Heart broken
by: Lida

I lost my love a few hours ago, I googles Loss of conure cuz it gets so bad.... I didn't think I could get so attached.. She was so sweet and loving...

My heart hurts so bad.. I had got to hit for my parents whom are really old but somehow she became my bird.

They are just as upset as I am and she went As far as comparing her death step to my sisters death whom we lost a few years ago-

Everyone says to get another bird but I can't replace her.. She was my best friend and I don't know how to deal with this.

Apr 25, 2015
Sorry about your bird
by: Mena

I read about how your bird died. I also read the other comments and I almost cried! I can't imagine what would happen if my 2 cute little babys died. There names are Tweety and Angela and there my little budgies. Tweety green and yellow and Angela white and blue.

Apr 20, 2015
move on
by: Doris

Hi, I appreciate your kind words of losing my bird. Thank you. Getting another bird doesn't take away the gut wrenching pain of losing my sweet Birdie. I got another bird and I am trying to celebrate her uniqueness and individuality. She certainly helps give life back to me and my home. If someone has suggestions on how to go on after the loss of our best friends would be most welcomed. Thank you for listening and will look forward to any and all life giving suggestions. God Bless, Doris

Mar 25, 2015
Don't beat you self up
by: Chrystal

Don't feel bad you did not mean any harm. Get you another bird. My bird just past today as well. I bathe her, she was shivering so I took her and sat her in the sun. She was a fighter. She stayed with me for about 45 min., passing away slowly. You do all you can and all you know. There is not anything else you can do. Your bird would not have been happier anywhere else but with you. It will be okay. Will get through this together. Birds get sick and they go to a better place, where there is no sickness and no pain. Do something good for yourself like working out and being with family. That always make me feel good when I'm not by myself studying for school. Don't be sad.

Mar 24, 2015
we are not alone
by: Doris

I am so sorry about you losing your best friend. I also lost mine due to my stupidity. Of all the millions of times I put my love Birdie in his safe place before I opened the doors (a normal grey Cockatiel I had for almost 13 years) why that day did i not? I figured I could open the kitchen door and quickly close the garage door. Well he saw an opportunity to escape and he took it. I am emotionally crushed and can not stop crying. The guilt is just to too much to bare knowing this tragedy was preventable. It's been 10 weeks and I am not doing any better to accept this heart wrenching life changing loss. Life without my best buddy and love bug is incomprehensible. How do I go on with out the love of my life? Thank you for listening. Doris

Mar 06, 2015
To conner's mom
by: Anonymous

I lost Billy in November to a drowning. I completely know how you feel. I prayed that all the angels and asked for them to give me strength. I did get another bird. Billy was a blackmask lovebird so I got a dusky conure. Lexi in no way, shape or form replaced billy. I still cry, I still miss him, I still can't believe he's gone. I ring his bell and still talk to him. I cried harder when billy died than when my brother and my father passed away and I can't explain that at all. I'm loving Lexi in a different way than I loved billy. But, she filled a void and makes me smile again. They cannot be replaced, period. God puts these little souls in our life and they leave before us so that when we leave this earth, we have our beautiful animals waiting for us in the other side. All the children that have passed on, well, they need our birdies to play with until we join them. Hugs to all of you and I'm so sorry for your pain, connects mommy!

Mar 05, 2015
Just reaching out...
by: Conner's Mom

It's been about three months since I lost my beloved bird. I am having a difficult time. I have lost my parents and a brother over the years and have mourned and learned to move on. Yet, I can't seem to move on from the loss of Conner. I miss him in the morning when I wake up; I miss his greeting when I come home from work. I miss play time before bed. He was with me most of the time when I was in the house. Even though I have a wonderful husband and two great kids who are very compassionate, I still miss Conner a great deal. I guess more time has to pass before I learn to "move on." I find myself thinking about getting another bird, but then I can't imagine having a relationship with another like I had with Conner. For now, I enjoy watching the variety of birds at the feeders in my backyard. I hope that some day I will be able to take a chance and fall in love with another bird. We'll see. Thanks for listening...

Feb 24, 2015
thank you for your comments
by: Jack

Thank you for sharing. I do wish things could be different for you. You have actually found a very educational, and heart wrenching website. Others have lost their birds in horrible ways, and we all hurt when these events occur. By sharing these experiences, I've learned from others. So, thanks again Here's hoping your bird finds his way back. - jack

Feb 20, 2015
Lost my happiness lost my budgie
by: Anonymous

My little budgie flew away today and I am extremely sad.
I am so sorry for your loss and I really do understand how you feel. Loosing a bird or a pet is like loosing your best friend. I got my budgie four months after I moved to uk. I knew no one but my husband and she really made my life happier she became my best friend! She will even remove my tears when I cried. She was the cutest little creature in my world and she was a big troublemaker but I loved her for that. She used to keep me in company, eat with us, she used to eat everything with us and she even stole our food, played with the water while washing. She even slept in my bed on my tommy while I was sleeping. She loved to kiss and stand on our shoulders. I was really never alone when she was here I miss her so much and I can't stop crying :''''( Every time I do something I remember her. She used to be all over the place with me even when I was showering she will jump in to play with the water. She used to sit in my bedroom and throw my perfumes down of the table oooo I could carry on for years telling about her she was going to be one year old the 26th of March. I haven't had her for a year but she really made life a lot happier place to be. She only slept and ate in her cage it was never closed so she flew wherever she wants whenever she wanted. My deepest feelings is with whomever have lost a friend as I really know how it feels. My budgie is not dead but I don't know if it is easier as I think a lot about what she might be doing, did she have anything to eat and dring and oooo its so cold outside I can't stop thinking of her I hope at leat someone found her and will be very nice and gentle with her.

Feb 09, 2015
Pauline
by: Anonymous

Hi Pauline:

I was touched by your very accurate description of loving, caring and nurturing your bird. Could it be that Pauline was ill before you bought her..Birds take along time to share their ills with us..usually for me ,,I try and use preventive medicine which costs a lot of money to keep them alive(i raise exotic finches)..I can sympathize and emphasize your feelings because I too have made errors and cried uncontrollably about loosing any of my birds..they mean soooo much to me..did you ever hear about the rainbow bridge..please read about it ..your animals/birds go with you when you cross to the other side(heaven) so read up about it..I admire your admiration about Pauline..she will be with you and your mother when you cross over ..stay strong
Nick

Feb 04, 2015
my boy brandon
by: Anonymous

Dear Pamela,
I am so sorry about your Parrot. As devastated as I was about kiwi; the pain does subside some! I certainly know how you feel, and my daughter wanted to get another but we aren't ready! Something had gotten into his cage and I couldn't protect him! We will always hold our little friends in our heart! This forum does help! I hope it helps you!

Feb 01, 2015
My baby boy Brandon
by: Pamela

Brandon was my amazing green cheek conure who clearly said always "I love you" and "Si, si, si" which means yes, yes, yes in Spanish. He was the best cuddle, so deeply loving, so funny, smart. He died sleeping with me. He always sleeps in his cage, but I took a nap and he just wanted to be with his mommy. Brandon thank you for all your love, all your laughter and fun times. You were my best friend in the world. I love you and I will see you again one day. I love you, love mama.

Jan 13, 2015
we are not perfect
by: Anonymous

reading these posts can be very difficult yet comforting. we are not perfect. we strive to do the best and be good stewards to our birds and other animals but alas, we are fallible. my experience brought me so much pain that i tried very hard to block and forget. I left a cage door open which resulted in my dog getting to six of my seven birds. I had left to go shopping. The only survivor was the Patriarch. His mate, their son, his mate and his three babies were all killed. Burying them was the worst. I wanted to move from our house because of the trauma and the visual images that I couldn't erase. I got another female but it was never the same. About three months later the patriarch died, and i believe it was from a broken heart. If we could just turn back time to do things differently ...
I also rehabilitate cottontail rabbits and I had two in an outdoor run. One had been raised by a woman for about a month and had no fear and no flight instinct. When going out to offer food at dusk, with a flashlight, I stepped on the one and crushed her skull. I was devastated beyond belief. This still hurts as if it was yesterday, and it's been about 3 months. It's very difficult to forget and move on because of the guilty, but somehow we do. So sorry to everyone who has lost a loved baby. You are not alone.

Jan 05, 2015
Air fresheners and Plug ins...
by: Anonymous

I had a cockatiel that just died. He was about 15 years old. We let someone move into our home who loves to burn smelly candles and uses plug in air fresheners. I think that's what killed him. He was fine until this person moved in. I'm putting this on her as a warning to others, please don't use these around your birds. He was fine before this person moved in and he did start sneezing. He didn't have any nasal discharge so I thought he was okay. He was a great bird.

Jan 05, 2015
Commiseration
by: Sandy

I am so sorry for the loss of everyone's beloved birds that I have read about in this thread. Reading about them all has helped to alleviate some of the guilt that I, myself, have been feeling ever since the loss of our beloved cockatiel, Mandarin. He was my daughter's bird and we all adored him. I had read about sharing food with your bird many times after we brought him home (he was our first bird) and for the 3 years we had him, my daughter often shared her breakfasts and dinners with him. (he loved oatmeal and my apple chicken chili!). We had noticed him hanging out on the bottom of his cage with his feathers fluffed out one evening, but didn't think anything of it as he sometimes liked to wander around the bottom of his cage. The next day we were gone most of the day and didn't get home until the evening. My daughter went over to his cage to say 'hi' and then screamed upon finding him lying dead on the bottom of his cage. We were heart broken! I wanted to know why this had happened...and it wasn't until looking up causes of death that I discovered avocados were poisonous to birds. I had made an avocado sauce in the previous nights dinner, which my daughter had shared with Mandarin. I couldn't tell her that she had poisoned her bird, and convinced her that he must have been older than we had been told when we got him. But I have cried over his loss and the reason for it ever since! It makes me feel a little less awful to have read the many stories posted here, as I realize that I'm not alone in having made a mistake and been ignorant about something. It still breaks my heart to have lost our Mandarin, but I feel a little less like a horrible person. We did eventually get another cockatiel, a pretty little girl who we named 'Le'Mon' *my daughters idea lol) and now there isn't a food that is shared with her that isn't first researched and double checked beforehand!

Dec 28, 2014
kiwi
by: Anonymous

On Christmas eve day my husband went next door to my grooming shop, to check on kiwi myvquaker parrot; to make sure he had enough fresh water and food! I had knee surgery and wasn't able to take care of him! My husband came back to tell me kiwi had been eaten! It literally made me sick, and I haven't stopped crying over this! Something had gotten into his cage and I feel awful! My daughter bought him to be the mascot in our shop, and he was very entertaining! Most of my customers loved to see him when they came tovpick up their dog! Plus when I was there by myself he was always talking to me; and was such good company! I loved that little bird and its gonna be so hard without him!

Dec 23, 2014
Conner's mom....from Jaspers mom
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for sharing your nephew's note....it's the most comforting and true thing I've read and heard since I lost my wonderful jasper. We're all going through the same loss and hurting.... Much love to you all. I hope, in time the pain eases for us all soon x

Dec 23, 2014
Mistake!
by: Conner's Mom

I am so sorry Jocelyn for addressing you by your beloved Gabby's name. Please forgive me.

Dec 23, 2014
So sorry Gabby...
by: Conner's Mom

Hello Gabby and all who've lost their beloved bird:

My bird also died as a result of sleeping in my bed. It has been a devastating loss-I loved him and I miss him so much. The guilt and thoughts of putting my bird through any sort of pain are crushing. My nephew, who is also a bird lover, sent me this note:

"It is ok to be devastated. It's a process. Some people have never even touched a bird, let alone experience that level of companionship. Take time to grieve, don't suppress anything. It's very, very sad and right now a healthy response is to feel sad. That's ok. Just take your time. There's no fair way to put a positive spin on anything right now. However, I encourage you to think of this: Any idiot could have walked into that pet store and got Conner. People don't care about animals, people don't take care of things. He could have sat in a cage full of droppings for the remainder of his life. He could have never had a relationship with another person. He also could have stayed in the pet store for God only knows how long with people poking at him and messing with him. You were and remain in spirit the best thing that ever happened to him."

My nephew's words have helped me as has the support of my family. His words hold true to all of us. I still cry and expect that I will for a while. Gabby, please know that others share your grief with you and will keep you in our thoughts and prayers as you navigate through this painful journey to healing.

Dec 20, 2014
Gabby
by: Anonymous

March 20, 2014 I adopted a bird name gabby, she was really sweet, smart, and beautiful intill one morning at 12-19-14 she passed away. Gabby loved me so much as much as I did too. The first time we got gabby she didn't like cages, she wanted to be out and play with me. So one night gabby didn't wanted to sleep in the cage so I didn't let Her, so instead I wanted her to sleep with me so we did, the next morning she was fine so I kept sleeping with her every night. She loved to cuddle with me every night and puff up in my chin. Intill one night she some how went under my pillow by accident and couldn't breath, I woke up trying to look for her. I looked in my moms room, I couldn't find her, I was worried so I went back to bed and try to look for her, then I reached out in my pillow flipped it up and found her, I picked her up and she couldn't move I turned her around and I found out she was dead. I began to cry and cry, I felt so broken hearted, I felt guilty, I couldn't stop crying. I didn't know what to do. I told her that I was sorry, I loved her and that I will miss her forever and that I will never ever forget her no matter what. I felt like my life was over and that I'm done, I just wanted to die and be with her cause that's how much I love her. I wanted die. So now as I write this I'm still crying, I will never forget you and I hope you will forgive me
Love,
Jocelyn
I will miss u gabby❤️

Dec 20, 2014
My lovebird drowned, I feel so sad
by: Therese

My lovebird was not caged. He was 7 1/2 years old. He used to sleep under covers in a cat bed in the drawer of my nightstand. He loved his night night. when he was ready to go to bed he would get on my shoulder and fae forward. It was so cute. Billy went everywhere with us. He loved to travel in the car and as long as he was with us he was happy. One day we got a hotel room so we could visit friends and then leave the next morning. I set up billys play pen, lamp, food, toys, everything. When we got home that evning, Billy was no where to be found. My husbad came out of the bathroom with Billy in a towel, he had drowned in the toilet. The bathtub in the hotel room had towels hanging over the side and he must have climbed up on them and either got scared and flew or just wanted to perch on the toilet seat. I always kept the bathroom lids down or shut the door. On this ocasion my husband and I just forgot. We feel so horrible and quilty. He was my buddy, my saving grace, my everything. Ive never cried so hard in my life and the pain of how he died is excruciating for both my husband and I.
I am getting another bird but this one will be caged and only out when I am with him. I am so sorry for al your losses. I know how it feels.

Dec 17, 2014
Thinking of Jasper and you
by: Jack and Billie Sue

My friend and I are so very sorry for the loss of Jasper. We understand how Jasper was a best friend and probably a member of the family. People just seem to inadequately do 'the best they can' when trying to offer sympathy. I see you are concerned that he may have suffered from the fumes. I've been in a situation where I was enclosed in with fumes also. I didn't experience any suffering. I just wanted to lay down and be still. A family member coaxed me out in the open and after awhile, I felt like doing stuff. I'm sure Jasper didn't suffer, but we're still sorry he's gone. We've lost birds also, and we know they're very special. This is a really good website to study what happens when people lose their birds. We learn from others, so thank you for sharing. We'll be thinking about you in the coming days and hope things will be better soon.

Jack and Billie Sue

Dec 17, 2014
Jasper
by: Anonymous

Hi everyone.... I lost my beloved african grey, jasper 6 days ago due to my 20 month old daughter turning on the grill as we left one morning. I returned at 2pm to house full of fumes, my dog on brink of passing away but jasper was already gone... Laid on his back with his eyes part open. I'm killing myself with guilt and pain. We'd had him ten years and I was the only person he truly loved. Ten years,( a third of my life) of laughs, dancing, shoulder sitting, and best of all cuddles. I can't believe I'll never hear his voice again.... I wish I'd just shut the baby gate behind me as I entered the kitchen then he'd still be here. People keep saying ''at least no one was hurt, I been so lucky' I feel like screaming I LOST MY BEST FRIEND HOW CAN U SAY THAT! I am grateful my dogs ok but I do anything for jasper to be here with us..... The house is too quiet. I'll always miss u jasper, I hope U didn't suffer too much. Im so sorry I couldn't save u. I will never forget you. Love from Mummy xxx

Dec 11, 2014
sincere condolences
by: pamela

So sorry to you all for the loss of your babies. The most important thing is that you loved and looked after them to the best of your ability. We can all make mistakes or be unaware of something that can potentially be harmful.I've made wrong judgements and beaten myself up about it, but the important thing is that we learn from it and we can educate others.You loved your babies and they knew it and they loved you. also you will see them again. They have gone over the bridge and are waiting for you. They will also be with you in spirit at times. Never really gone. God Bless you all and look after yourselves xx

Dec 10, 2014
My stupid mistake
by: Anonymous

I lost my little sun conure Rio 3 days ago. I put her to bed as normal and had some friends over for a couple drinks. After they left i decided to cook some dinner. I fell asleep on the lounge and the food was still on the stove. I was woken by my neighbours who had called the fire brigade. They have a spare key and the whole street entered my house thick with smoke as i did not wake up to the smoke detectors. Not only did i almost die but i also killed my little girl. My next door neighbour who looked after her whilst i am away for work handed her to me in all the confusion. I was devastated and still am. I burst into to tears and have so ever since. The house is so quiet and i am so lonely without her. My stupid mistake cost her life and i don't know how to forgive myself. The guilt and grief is killing me but i feel i deserve it. I still think i hear her when i open a door or see her fly towards me when i enter a room. She was one of a kind who talked, laughed and gave the best cuddles. I have not been able to eat since. I love you my little girl. I am supposed to protect her and she suffered the ultimate price. Good girl, kiss and nite nite RIP XX p.s please give your pets a hug and kiss for Rio

Dec 07, 2014
sorry about Conners
by: jack

So very sorry for your loss. Hoping your recovery will be quick. This forum is very good for an education on what not to do. I’ve referred to it several times. I’m glad you found it. Will be thinking about you.

Dec 06, 2014
My wife lost her bird
by: Conners Dad

I am so glad I came across these comments. My wife just lost her bird Conner this morning - the result of having the bird in the bed. She is now dealing with the loss of the bird - she and Conner were inseparable - and her guilt over the cause. While I also loved Conner I am not as much of a pet person as she is and I need to do all I can to support her. My heart breaks for her. Not looking for answers - but sure nice to be able to put it out there to folks who know what it is all about

Nov 27, 2014
why
by: parakeet lover

I am scared my parakeet,colors just got attack by my moms cat,tiger.He is a very large cat and also has huge claws,paws,and teeth. He got bite in the stomach and a cut in his wing.My dad mom and sister says he will be ok but i don't belive them. My heart is gushing with guilt.I had my hand in the cage petting angel his girlfriend and he slid out the tiger pounced on him.Now he is asleep i do not know what to do i just want him to be ok. hope you find the love to get a new parrot sending love <3 :]

Nov 22, 2014
my best friend Sun Conure
by: Anonymous

My best friend Sun Conure (Lucky) died 11/20/2014
I have been crying since then I loved him so much he was 7 and half years old.
He went through allot with me during the past 7 years.
I am going to miss him so much I hope to see him one day. He was my sunshine.
I didn't know he was sick. He just died suddenly. The night before he died his eyes were different I thought maybe he is sleepy. I should have known and taken him to vet. His brother a green cheek (Luie) cries every night and knows that he is gone. I am so sorry to let him go so soon I thought he would stay alive for a long time I will miss my sunshine.

Nov 17, 2014
How to say sorry
by: melinda

I am sorry about your little friend.I wish i could say something to help you

Oct 30, 2014
Sending love
by: Anonymous

Sending love and hugs

to you all in rememberance of the unconditional love and happiness we received from our beautiful companions

Oct 29, 2014
Heartbreaker
by: J55cmn

So sad to hear all the losses with Harley, budgie and the dog.
I miss O'leet who died 3 weeks ago and was only 18months old.
Thought I would have him for years.
I posted on here when it happened and it helped knowing I could share my grief,shock and guilt.
I thank God for my time with O'leet because I sure learnt about unconditional love.
Thinking of you.

Oct 28, 2014
my bird
by: morgan

yesterday 10-27-14 my bird died at the age of 1 and 8 months. his name was harley.one night when i was saying good night he was fluffed up and making low chirping noises just like your bird.i was wondering why and the next day after school i was going to play with him and instead i found him on his back with his feet curled up and one wing fanned out. i ran to my mom with tears in my eyes and said harleys on his back. i do have glade (lysol) but i dont recall spraying it near or close or ever in my room.my mom said it could be any of the possibilities below:
.stress from when we move the day before
.illness
im sorry for the loss of your bird, i send my sympathy
i am only 11 and i love your birds name :)

Oct 26, 2014
My heart feels for you
by: Anonymous

I have had a similar experience with my beloved dog I waited before going to the vets and she died because of my negligence I don't know how we can carry on do you

Oct 19, 2014
I accidentally killed my budgie
by: Lily

Can't stop crying.. My budgie was very sweet and I bought him few weeks ago. He didn't look well and was pearching on the bottom of cage n was fluffed up throught. I called a vet n he checked n declared that the bird was healthy..Only problem was his poop was sticking to his vent as he had loose motion n the doc cleaned it. After he left we could see that poop was constantly getting deposited in his vent and my mom used to grab him n I used to clean his vent.Today after cleaning his vent he looked unstable and lied on the floor cage. After some time he turned over with shallow breating.. And he eventually passed away. I feel so sad to loose him n I feel that mayb we didn't grab him properly n injured him someway..but he wouldn't have survived if we didn't clean his vent regularly as poop would get dried n eventually close the vent.. Me n my mom are so broken hearted .. Feeling so guilty n soo sad . Can't stop the tears n the heart ache :-((

Oct 16, 2014
All i know it's not easy to be a bird owner.
by: meandmeena

What a sad story, I am crying here at the office. Poor Pauline. I heard about the doggy pads are very bad for birds.

All i know it's not easy to be a bird owner.

Oct 14, 2014
sad
by: Anonymous

It was really sad to hear about your bird. I can feel the pain as I too having a sun conure bird with me.

I don't blame you for this, it's just been an accident and thanks for making us aware of this.

Hopefully you will overcome this grief and may god bless you with another cute parrot

Oct 13, 2014
O'leet
by: Anonymous

Thank you Jack and your friend for your understanding and support.
God bless you!

Oct 13, 2014
checking back in
by: jack

Yes, in fact, I have birds now. A sun conure and a couple of parakeets. I agree that they are amazing critters. I’ve subscribed to this forum to learn from other’s who post here. I’ve seen several instances of animal attacks, having the bird in bed and accidently rolling over, crushing the bird, spraying chemicals whether cleaners or insecticides, and the list goes on. We were lucky early on with our loose birds and cooking. Birds are attracted to the sounds of cooking and will try to hop into the pot/pan with the cooking food. I know of a family in St. Louis who lost their bird to this kind of ‘accident’. Losing a bird is a really hard way to learn how to have a bird, but so far, I seem to be doing ok. I thought about you over the weekend and told a friend of mine about your loss. She also hopes you’re doing ok. She likes to play with my birds also. We both hate that you are going through this loss.

Oct 11, 2014
O'leet
by: Anonymous

Thank you sooooo much Jack. I so appreciate your acknowledgment of Olee (O'leet). He was a magnificant bird.
What he brought to my life could never be repeated.
Did you have other birds after your loss?
Birds are so amazing!

Oct 10, 2014
response to the loss of Olee
by: jack

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've also lost birds to a dog years ago, and I still remember it. I have a rule that no other animals are to be around my birds. I have this rule because of this kind of loss. I miss the birds I've lost, much like you're missing your Olee, I;m sure. It sounds like he was a magnificent bird, and I'll be thinking about you too. Hoping you'll be better soon.

Oct 09, 2014
My precious buddy O'leet (Olee).
by: Anonymous

April 2013 - 8/10/2014.
I never knew the love I could have with a bird until a hand raised scaly breasted lorikeet came into my life.
I knew nothing about brushed tongue birds I read everything I could to look after my bird.
It was very challenging and often for the first couple of months I became anxious about whether or not I could keep him. (DNA test).
He nearly died from pneumonia,was on anti-biotics and ended up costing me heaps of money (didnt have a lot).
He pulled through (I would pray for him often).
He flourished, and I went all out training him, making so much fun for him, spending time with him, The first thing he always said to me was "Do you want something to eat".
Olee was so much fun I loved him and he adored me.
In every way I looked out for him.
I came home from work 2 days ago and put Olee on the back verandah as I always did. I went out to my car to get something and two very small dogs were in my driveway.
I knew they would get run over if I didn't locate their owner. I unthinkingly let them out on the back verandah, they were very small and Olee was up high on his cage. I quickly went inside for a second to get my mobile to ring the owners (#on the dog collar.I heard Olee's muffled cries and ran out to find him being mauled by one of the dogs.I managed to push the dog away. My beautiful Olee was dying in my hands. I feel so sad that I didn't protect him. Everything happened so fast.I thought he would be safe "for a sec" seeing as the dogs were so small. I'm not sure what happened.
I have been so involved with Olee in so many ways,I loved him for the gorgeous (lots of times challenging)bird/buddy he was. I was careless and
now he's gone. God bless you Olee and me. God I thank you for my treasured feathered friend.


Sep 30, 2014
In the arms of the angels, fly away from here!
by: Christine

This site has brought me so much comfort when I need it the most. My mom passed away of cancer in 2009 and all she was worried about was her precious green cheek conure, Beejay. I knew nothing about birds, loved to see birds in the wild but never imagined having one as a pet. Whenever I went to visit my mom I had to say my hello's to Beejay or she would be mad.

Well, I kept my promise and took in my mom's bud when she passed away. This little thing stole my heart. She was so funny, cuddly, friendly and sassy. She brought so much joy to our lives. Well, this morning I found her at the bottom of her cage. To make along story short took her to the sweetest vet in Toronto who believes she had a stroke. He went over everything we could do to see if she would make it through but I just didn't feel right doing that to her.

Now I sit her thinking about all the things I could have done differently, it is an awful feeling. I feel like I lost my mom all over again in that little bird that brought me so my unconditional love. She will be so missed. My condolences go out to all who have lost a bird for we all know how much they can bring to our lives.

Sep 23, 2014
forgot
by: Anonymous

forgot to add sorry for your loss ;(.

Sep 23, 2014
so sad
by: Anonymous

What did she die of?, Omg id die if my birds dies to, hes plucking atm came across this article accidentally.

Sep 16, 2014
Gizmo
by: Anonymous

You never really get over it unfortunately. I lost my little Maroon Bellied Conure, Gizmo, 6 years ago a week before Christmas. He was a rescue, plucked totally naked (aside from tail, primary flight & head feathers) and the woman I adopted him from told me he was a Green Cheek (we have two GCCs and even minus feathers Gizmo clearly was not one). Upon bringing him home we had him fully vetted, blood work, stool samples, everything... even DNA sexed. Nothing came back abnormal, nothing even suggesting anything abnormal. He was terrified of hands (something left over from a previous home I guess), but would readily step up on a stick and sit on our shoulders snuggling in our hair. After we had him about a month it was like his soul lit up, there was light in his eyes (again, maybe, or maybe for the first time...). We had him just under a year. Sunday evening I noticed him acting a little off, it seemed like he was a little wind up toy winding down... He ate dinner and drank like normal that night, but I knew in my heart he was leaving. He slept in his little night-night cage on my bedstand and I hoped to god he would just pass peacefully overnight. I kept waking up to check on him... in the morning he was still hanging on, but not by much... Emergency vet... He died in my hands there. I held him, petted his little head and preened his pin feathers for the first, last and only time while I watched that beautiful, wonderful, sparkling light fade from his eyes, felt the life leave his little body and watched his soul flutter away. His eyes closed slowly and I hope the last thing he saw (me) was a happy thing or at least a comfort. I still cry for him. He died from fatty liver disease, nothing I could have done and yet I still feel like I failed him. Fly free little one, I will never forget you.

Aug 26, 2014
To Heartbroken July 24, 2014
by: Anonymous

My heart goes out to you and everyone else on this forum on the loss of their dear pets birds.
We had a sweet green cheek conure that loved to sit on our shoulder while in bed. One night we were tired and lazy and didnt put him back in his cage. We accidentally rolled over on him and crushed him. I cannot fully express the pain and devastation we went through, not to mention beating ourselves up on stupidity and laziness. Its been four years now. My wife still cries every night since. Time does help but the pain never really goes away. We eventually got another green cheek conure. This new conure also loves to sit on our shoulder and snuggle with us. But we make sure to put her away in her cage at night where she belongs. Please dont beat yourself up or blame your son. It was an accident. It wont bring back your precious baby. However, keep her in your memories and learn from this tragic mistake to put her away each and every night. Try looking online for parrot rescues in your state. Hopefully you will find another sun conure.

Aug 25, 2014
So sorry :'(
by: Jess

I was so sad to read this (and everyone else's stories too). We lost our 7 month old Green Cheek Peanut yesterday. We did everything we could, making sure his environment was safe and clean, that he was well fed and taken care of. When we realized the signs of him being sick, it was too late, and he died in our hands before we could rush to the vet.

I can't even begin to describe the devastation we felt (still feel), but reading through all the comments helps us realize that we really did everything we could and that should we bring another into our little family again, we have some very, very helpful and great information thanks to all of you. We can avoid making him sick at all, and what to look for should the future baby become ill. I just hate that we lost such a beautiful little baby because we just didn't see the signs immediately.

Thank you all for your words, they are comforting, even if they aren't directed at us.


Aug 21, 2014
to SP
by: jack

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My mother and I also lost birds to a pet dog. It really hurts in a way one would not expect. For us, its been 30 years ago. Time helps. Try not to lash out at the offending animal(s). It may help to turn them over to another home. We did not. Looking back, it may have been the best thing to do. We have spent time remembering how special our birds were. I'm sure your your birds were also very special. I have several birds now, and my rule is, no other animals in the house, period. Again, I feel so bad for you right now, and I know it hurts. Know someone is thining about you and your birds, and hoping you can get this behind you. Take care - jack

Aug 21, 2014
I am broken
by: SP

Tonight was our three year anniversary. We went out to dinner...had a wonderful time. Came back home and sat on the couch. I opened the conures' Cage to let them hang out with us. They were a little grumpy tonight...and I was frustrated with them for it. They had been grumpy since we returned from vacation.
My Gf's daughter stopped by to get some keys. They were in my car so we both went outside to get them and give them to her. We were out a maximum of two - three minutes. When we came back in I discovered the dogs killed both conures. It was a horrible sight.
The bigger dogs have never hurt anything in their lives. The little one...an Italian Greyhound, was an avid hunter. He seemed to be getting along fine with the birds and any time they flew to the floor he knew to leave them alone. This time was different.
I keep kicking myself for not putting them back in their cage or taking them out with us. Two minutes and birds we put a lot of love and attention into are gone...in the most horrific way possible. I am broken. It is a nightmare. One of the birds was born with a crooked neck. I got him at a huge discount because no one wanted him. I loved him so much. It hurts my heart to know he would have been better off anywhere but, here. I feel so stupid. My heart hurts!!!

Jul 24, 2014
:(
by: Heartbroken

My female sun conure died in my hand this morning. I'm devistated to say the least. CJ and tj are eight months old and the female passed due to a horrible accident . My son didn't listen took them into the bed and rolled on top of her. It was horrifying I've been in bed all day tj keeps looking for her and my son is a mess. I'm so so upset I was very attached to her she was very loving and she was MY girl:( watchingy mail look for her is painstaking and trying to find another female same age is nearly impossible. (email removed, we do not share emails here.)

Jul 18, 2014
i feel your pain
by: Anonymous

i took my conure outside for a bit of fresh air and sun when i went to bring her back inside i found her dead in her cage..still wondering what happen she was in good health..this was 5 days ago and it is haunting me that i failed her...

Jul 09, 2014
How incredibly sad!
by: Svetla Konstantinova

Oh, no! I am so sorry you lost your beautiful birdie! My heart goes out to you!

Jul 08, 2014
so sorry
by: Anonymous

I fell so bad I sorry that happened to you you must fell sad or something

Jul 01, 2014
Mmm
by: Anonymous

Oh you are forgiven

Jun 11, 2014
conure
by: Anonymous

Do not blame yourself.. You loved your birdie. That is so obvious from the way you wrote about her. She loved you too. I am so sorry you lost your little friend. Thank you for writing so other people can learn things to help with their own birds.But please do not blame yourself. <3

May 29, 2014
It wasn't the puppy pad
by: Lisa

Although I wouldn't use them, if your bird had been on the bottom of the cage, she was already ill or dying of old age. Birds usually act perfectly fine right up to the time they're close to dying. Our Senegal was fine one day, the next day on the bottom of his cage. He died within a few hours at the vet's office.

The vet said it is a necessary behavior, otherwise acting sick signals predators and they are taken before they're ready to go.

Really, I don't think the pad had anything to do with it if she was already hanging out on the bottom of her cage.

May 28, 2014
For Cara and Pauline
by: Anna

Dear Cara,
PLEASE do not beat yourself up over the death of your dear Pauline. We are only human.
I have 2 Sun Conures that I have hand raised. 4 Pekin ducks and 2 Rhode Island chickens. I have lost ducks and animals before due to something I did not know happened. I am an avid animal lover.

In reading your ad, my suspicion is that you changed the paper in their cage to some sort of pad baby pad you had never used before. Because birds forge for food they love to chew material of most any kind. I am thinking Pauline chewed and ingested this pad and something in it was toxic to her. Her symptoms sound like a toxic reaction. Also watery stool is a sign of her not eating and hydrating. Her ruffled feathers were the sign of a fever and chills as she was getting more and more ill. I have been through this a few times with my ducks. You have to remove them from their enviourment and put them in a small cage with close contact with you. Force feed them with a mixture of honey and yogurt until they will eat again. Keep them warm with a heating pad under their bed. When they improve, let them enjoy an Epsom salt bath. They should recover. I am so sorry for your loss. I actually have one Pekin named Donnie who now scams me with an illness so he can go to the sick bay because he likes the attention so much. Remember we are only human and learn from experience. And yes, birds do cry. Even a poor distressed chicken will cry a pathetic cry. And birds do lay eggs without a male. They all lay eggs but need a male only for fertilization.

May 21, 2014
Accidental Death
by: Rachelle

Zephyr died on Saturday. He didn't get around too well and I noticed about a month ago that he hadn't been talking or whistling as much. When I did hear him talking, it's because he would go down to the end of the hall and climb up one of the empty cages. So I brought him into my bedroom by the window. For a while I'd let him stay on the top of the cage to sleep because he didn't find the perches very comfortable to sit on. For the past few weeks I've been locking him up when I go to bed, and opening his cage when I got up. Then he would just go on top and stay there. He never got into anything, just liked to sing out the window and talk and say Hello to anyone who would listen. His cage was next to the blind lovebird I rescued and I noticed the lovebird was coming out more with him talking and whistling to him every day. Friday night I had woken from a nap around midnight and around 6am I was feeling pretty good because I got my work done and I could spend the weekend doing my own stuff. I went to bed but noticed Zephyr wasn't in his cage or on his cage. Sometimes he would fall down so I turned on the light and asked my bf to help me look. He was annoyed about the light when he was trying to sleep. I couldn't find Zephyr anywhere and I asked him to look under him just in case. He found him between his feet, dead.
I've relived that night over and over and there's nothing I really did wrong. My intention was to lock him in the cage when people are sleeping. It just happened that Johnny was cold when he went to bed so I put an extra blanket on him. It wasn't because Zephyr was in my room, because he was more happy than he'd been in months there. It was purely an accident.
To think I do play in the bed with my linnie, Blueberry. And I fell asleep earlier that day with Blueberry as well. Close call. But when close calls are death, you learn a lot more from them. I've put a sign on the bed anytime Blueberry is playing in the sheets, and he goes into his cage before I close my eyes. Zephyr never played on the bed. He was such a good bird, I miss him so much.

Apr 22, 2014
Remedies
by: Dee

Since my poor African Grey has been plucking so badly after I inadvertently sprayed her from a water bottle that had contained bleach, I managed to spray her with fresh warm water 3 times a day and dried her off with a soft towel. I went onto a homeopathic vet internet site and there they suggested I rub coconut oil on her feathers and also let her eat a little of the oil every day, which builds up her immunity. It must be the coconut oil which humans use for frying, not the medicinal one. But I first began by putting on a little homeopathic Calendula cream onto her back every night where she was plucking and it's helped a lot with the itching, so the plucking is a lot less now. It's possible she's developed an allergy now due to the bleach spray going into her nostrils and into her lungs. I also give her less sunflower seeds and incorporate chicken bones with the chicken on it in her diet, dried fruit, grapes and apple pieces which she loves, and lots of fresh water with parrot vitamin powder (just a little pinch), and also parrot tonic, to build up her strength. I take her for vitamin A injections once a month, as the sunflower seeds are deficient in vitamin A, and that causes itchy skin and feather-plucking. I talk to her every day and apologise for hurting her by mistake, and tell her she must get well as we love her so much. Believe me, she understands. She's whistling and talking again and seems happy most of the time. And I'm so careful NEVER to spray fly-spray or anti-flea carpet spray or any type of aerosol spray near her. Birds are so sensitive to that type of thing and can die easily. She gets lots of fresh air and I leave her in the sun for at least 15 minutes a day to get her vitamin D from the sun.

Apr 18, 2014
green cheek conure
by: alice

I am so sorry. I came on this site to get advice about my own green cheek conure chewing metal. I thought it was a diet deficiency since she has been laying eggs. she is 10 years old. I love her and my African grey. I am so ignorant also and I am an rn. Metal could poison her. I am going to call my vet now, before I do damage. Thank you for writing about your loss as you may have saved my little cookie. I know that it is very difficult to know when a pet bird is ill because they hide it . My African grey was ill and I only could save him because he is so active and gets in trouble a lot.I thought he was just being so good. I spent a day before I realized hes too quiet, hes not being good, hes sick. Also avian vets are few and far between I found.

Apr 11, 2014
So sorry
by: Dee

Oh your story made me cry! Oh God, I am guilty of the same thing. I sprayed my carpets with anti-flea stuff cos of my dog's fleas, then I sprayed my African Grey with water for a bath but she went ballistic! I realised I had sprayed her with a bottle that had contained pure bleach! Took her to the vet, but her plucking is now out of control and I fear she's dying. We changed her diet as the vet said she had a vitamin A deficiency due to too many sunflower seeds in her diet, but I fear she's not recovering from all thesd factors. She's 6 years old. I have decided never to get anymore pets or birds as they suffer from too many problems, and it breaks my heart totally!

Feb 20, 2014
Female conure
by: Anonymous

My bird died today at 8:30 pm she was in my room with her other mate a guy and she fell to the floor and she couldn't walk as if she was dizzy and I picked her up and she wanted to fly and started flapping her wings and then she started breathing heavily then I didn't know what to do so I payed her down on the floor and next thing you know it she stopped and that's when I knew she died. but when she was breathing heavily she was like numb because I was opening her wings and like petting her and she usually starts to bite me but well she couldn't move so she didn't so anything

Jan 04, 2014
In memory - smoody
by: Audrey

My little love parakeet - departed 4th jan
She is my joy n comfort . Came to me me after the loss of my mother . Only 5months from a wild bird that bits but now a Love bird that will kiss n smooth all over me !
Did I caused her death ? I could not get help in time n she left suddenly !
She keeps me company when I am at work n my most of all my bedtime mate too.
Why n what is the cause ? Just woke up in early hours to find her shits on my bed bedside me n looking weak n motionless ! Not able to get any medical attention but by the time I get one ,she died mid way to the clinic !
Google n checks for reasons n still cannot find the answer .
She loves sweets n she had pistachio nuts the night before .
Have noticed her fluffing her feather n think she is showing off her beautiful feathers . Also starting to recall that she have been panting lately too after couples of chase !
Did I caused her death ? How much I cry will not bring her back but really regret all my negligence to her n too late now to find out all these possible answer .
When I got her , I only google for teaching n training site but never google for possible death site !
Now will live to regret !
To all bird lover , do your research well to prevent breaking your own heart ,

To end :
My dearest smoody , you have bought so much joy , love n companionship to me that I thank you and regretfully seek your forgiveness if I am the caused of your early departure .
Without you now I am trash out ! I will get another parakeet in replacement n hope you find your way to better land or if not back to me again n I will treasure my next love bird me in memory of you .. Smoody

Jan 04, 2014
So sorry
by: Anonymous

I just got a baby boy sun conure. I have been paying attention to him constantly since I read this. I feel so sad for you I know how you feel my dog died and my fish.

Dec 10, 2013
sorry for your loss
by: Jack, cablecritter720@hotmail.com

Really sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure star was a wonderful bird. - jack

Dec 10, 2013
A Star has Fallen
by: Armani

My GCC Star died last Tuesday or Wed. I took a 10 day vacation and my neighbor who was checking on her and my Cockatiel Haley daily and changing the water and food.

My neighbor told me last night that Star died. They found her on the floor of the cage lying still. We don't know what happened. Star was totally fine and happy when I left. I've left them before and my neighbor looked over them and the birds were fine. The only difference is that I left the cage closed this time only because they both once flew behind my DVD towers and couldn't get out without my help.

Haley is now back to standing next to the mirror (before I kept them separate so they could get along) and doesn't come out of the cage anymore. The mirror is like she sees another bird. She doesn't really cater to people and hisses at me. She followed Star all over the place and curiously did what Star did. Star always liked being around people even though she bit but not to the point of breaking skin. She liked bathing and taking showers but never played with the toys. She always went on my finger and loved standing on my shoulder. She also nibbled on my shirt and face.

Haley played with the toys but she's totally not being active now. I'm debating to whether to get another bird or just give away Haley and not deal with this again. It's frustrating not knowing why Star died so I can prevent this from happening again if I chose to continue owning birds. Star was only 7. I really miss her...

Nov 26, 2013
rest in pet heaven...
by: mr.X

Really sorry to everyone who lost their pets, I just lost my green cheek conure dooby (opus) today, i feel horrible about it more than when I feel when I hear a human died...the sad part it was only 2yrs old. I adopted the bird with her friend a sun conure (mango) they was cool pals they would call each other when the other was far apart or when they hanging out
They would chase my quacker parrot around also and try to take the toy...it was funny! I don't know how my bird died I just got back from a one day vacation and found out about it.... I feel terrible, I don't know what to do with my sun- conure and it's reaction to it ...I don't want to lose the other one!

Oct 31, 2013
SAFEST CLEANING IS....
by: Anonymous

A steamer! I have the ladybug.

Sep 22, 2013
:(
by: Jason

I had my pet fancy green cheek conure since July 30 2012 (my birthday)and it was born in july 7 2012. I've always loved that bird, every time I come home from school I would hear it chirp.There was something different about my bird's personality than other birds. At the biginning it was alway's scared of me, but then it personality changed it started to be more brave and bites alot. After that I usually ignore the bird. Then, after a few more months the bird would become more kind and would only bite if you mess with them. After that it doesn't bite at all. My bird represent a kind of freedom. The bird only bites when it's in the cage or just got out of the cage ,but is so kind and cudly after that. The bird is also smart, when most of the seeds is eaten it would use it's beak to drop the food container to the ground and also water if it's filfty. It would always want to come out of it's cage and play with me but my mom would even kick the bird if it flies. Every day It sees me it would jump up and hang on the cage bars until I leave. I woul let the bird go outside almost everyday ,because I know it will never fly away. It likes to sun bath and it only flies when I force it to fly and it onlys fly around the place. I've been through many great and sad memories with the bird like one time the bird was sick and was puffed up, on the bottom of the cage, and would just waddle.My mom covered the cage and when I opened it ,it looks all healthy. one horrible morning my mom was cleaning it's cage and she let the bird on hte tree for a whole hour and she came back and it was gone. I was asleep when this happened and when I heard about it I just cried and cried ,go to my room and skip breakfast, and lunch. I searched every where for it.But hope was lost a week after. It rained, hailed and stuff. I knew my bird couldn't make it alive. It is hard to find water, food, or a safe place where there's no hawks. I couldn't imagine it suffering or dying, laying there still, not moving it has always been a strong bird that would never give up. Its now been over 2 months since this happened and it gave me the ability to cry when ever and where ever I want. The worst part is it probably did even get to live a year yet it was so smart. It was born on july 7 2012 and my mom lost it on June 29 2013. Just over a week before we get to celebrate it's first birthday. And now I walk past my livingroom starring at an empty cage.

Editor's note: I am sorry for your loss. Please understand that you can NOT allow your bird to sit where wild birds have been, because it may contract a disease. You must never allow the bird to fly free, because it can get eaten by a predator or fly away, as you have found.

Sep 22, 2013
09/21/13. Our Baby Girl Sunday Died Today!!
by: Joe

Our Sunday, a Sunday Conure Died!! Sunday got caught in the lining inside her bed wrapped around her neck!! The kicker is my wife stated to me that maybe we should replace their bed!! My wife looked over the bed and thought nothing was wrong, just a few rips. When we were at the store, I asked my wife should we replace Their bed and she said maybe next time!! Well now there is no next time!! I Should of done it!! Sunday would of been alive now!! Now Conner is all by himself!! Sunday was his mate!! The reason we got Sunday is due to we felt so bad, she was in a tiny cage at the pet store. Sunday looked so unhappy until we held her. This is why we took her home!! Now because of us she is dead!! I know it was an accident. To Picture her losing air to fight to stay alive is hard to deal with!! These two birds were babies growing up together!! As of now Conner is searching the cage for Sunday!! what can I do to help him?? I feel so helpless!! Conner is stressing out!! I don't want to lose 2 birds!! My wife thinks we should get another bird, Yet I am no longer working due to medical reasons to afford another bird. Even if I do buy one, This would be taking a chance due to they may not get along with each other!! Sunday was going on 2 years old and Conner is going on 2 as well!! Sunday never had a chance to even have babies!! Sunday was a good girl!! SO SAD!!

Sep 03, 2013
RIP PAULINE
by: Natalie

You are not ignorant and it is not your fault that Pauline passed away. Birds are animals of prey and they do whatever it takes to hide any symptoms of illness, it is part of their natural instincts and makes it difficult for us bird lovers to tell when our baby is sick. Although you saw symptoms for a few days she may have been feeling sick for some time before that, but again, birds are highly skilled at masking their symptoms. Thank you for sharing because this just let's us all know how important it is to take our birds to the vet ASAP if we see any symptoms at all.

Aug 23, 2013
thank you for your story
by: Jack

So very sorry for your loss. I know you miss your Pauline very much. I've lost birds also, and it's always when my back was turned. I also thank you very much for the education your story provides because I have a sun conure. I research various things that could cause her a problem. I'm feel so bad that you and others have to go through these experiences, but thank you for sharing. I hope you're doing ok now. Jack

Jul 30, 2013
Lysol
by: Anonymous

I have a friend who's parrot died from lysol

May 20, 2013
this happent to me too :(
by: emilio

In may 19,2013 my bird died, it looked exactly like yours. Reading this made me very upset and i can relate to what happened to you. I almost bursted into tears when i found this out. His name was kiwi. We put him inside his cage so he can go to sleep, my mother had guests over when we put him inside the cage. My mother said that she heard a slam at the cage and when she checked it, kiwi was laying on the bottom of the cage. My mother picked him up to realize that he had both eyes half-way opened. Thats when i came to check on kiwi so i can play with him but i found out... he died. He had the same cause of death as pauline. I really find that wierd. Look the same, died the same day(i think), and had the same cause of death. I really am not sure if it was the same cause of death but i want to know, why? He wasn't even 2 years old yet. If anyone can tell me why, that'll be helpful. Thank you, goodbye.

Apr 17, 2013
My Sadie-Luv is gone also.
by: Hollie

My Jendaye Conure passed away yesterday...my birthday because my cleaning girl used Pledge Orange Clean and sprayed it on a duster around her cage. I had no idea. I got up in the morning and Sadie (her name was Mercedes) was lethargic...not herself. She was on her perch by her food but using her beak to hold herself up. I thought it strange, changed her water and food. I offered her some banana but she would not take it so I left some in her fruit cup. blew a kiss to her and left for work..I thought she was just not herself. I got home 8 hours later and she was at the bottom of the cage...could not stand on her legs and could not breathe. I picked her up and held her...for a few minutes. She bent her head and back, took her last breathe in my hands. I noticed that her head and back feathers were sticky, and thats when I knew what killed my little sadie-luv. My baby was 20 years old...she was my only daughter. There is a hole in my heart - I miss her so. I have to believe that the cleaning girl had no idea...because I didnt either.

Mar 19, 2013
So sorry. :(
by: Ella

I am so sorry for your loss and everyone else's that posted about their birds. There is nothing that can take the pain away from losing your beloved pets. It's a deep pain. So many love their pets as if they were their children. I am one of them. :)

Some advice I would like to pass on that may help is that before you buy any bird do tons of research online and even talk to an Avian vet about the particular bird you want to buy. The more you learn before you get your bird the more prepared you will be as a new bird mom or dad.

Chemicals are very harmful to birds. The only thing I use now is Simple Green but even that I don't use in the room where my bird lives. I do highly recommend miracle cloths that you can use hot water with for cleaning and they really do the job with absolutely no chemicals! Furniture polish, lysol, hair spray, perfume and yes teflon coated pans are very dangerous. When you cook you should shut the door to the room your bird is in because just about any type of fumes can harm their lungs.

Never let them chew on anything that's not approved for birds. Yes there will be times they chew things you don't want them to but the more careful you are from the beginning the more routine it will become.

I have been a pet owner since I was a kid and have raised and release a wild robin in the past year. I love bird, always have and hope this info I passed along helps someone.

Jan 12, 2013
Sorry
by: Anonymous

I was so sorry when I read your story and know exactly how you feel, as my beloved Green Cheeked Conure died the year before last because my ferret managed to escape through a door into the room where my conure, Alfie, was sitting on top of his cage. Alfie was so friendly that he climbed down from his cage to see the ferret. When I realised the ferret had escaped from my office into the living room (which was only a matter of seconds) I was too late - the ferret was on top of Alfie. I shouted and got him off and Alfie seemed OK but a little ruffled and I couldn't find any blood anywhere. However, he wasn't 'right' so I took him to an avian vet the next day, who gave him almost a clean bill of health and some treatment through a dropper (not sure what it was). However, I wasn't convinced that all was OK and I spent the next 2 nights sleeping on the floor next to Alfie's cage and the 2nd night, he screamed and died in the middle of the night.

To say I was devastated is a complete understatement. I have never felt grief like this in my life, even when I have lost humans, and not a day has gone by when I haven't thought about this little bird. I so wish I could turn the clock back and miss him every single day.

They say time heals, but it doesn't seem to be working in this case - I so hope the pain will go away one day and my heart goes out to you, as your experience was similar, in that you will always blame yourself for what happened.

We can only comfort ourselves by knowing in our hearts that we gave these birds a good life and looked after them to the best of our abilities whilst they were with us. Both situations were a total accident, and as many people have said to me - accidents happen. But it doesn't seem to make it any easier.

I thought it may be a comfort to you to know that someone else is feeling the same as you are.

Jan 08, 2013
Sorry for your loss
by: Steve

I am so sorry for your loss. I too have a sun conure and I almost killed him and my quaker parrot a few months ago. I got some new teflon coated bakeware. Seems that teflon on high heat gives off fumes that are very toxic to birds. A visit to the emergency room vet and $1000.00 later, thank God my babaies are ok, but it was a costly lesson to learn. There are so many households products we as humans take for granted and cannot harm us. BUT they are deadly to our pets. Cleansers, wee-wee pads, bakeware, etc. The list goes on and on. Please be very careful when using products around your pets. Again, my sympathies to you on the loss of your baby.

Jul 18, 2012
Sorry for your loss
by: koki

I was saddened to read your tragic story.
I thought though about the courage ot took to write it. Although you were heart broken you were prepared to risk others judging you to share our story so others could avoid the same pain.
I take muy hat off to you. It is so easy to judge others on mistakes made. This is however done upon reflection or with greater knowledge.
I know that if you knew that you were doing anything wrong then you would not have done so.

I wish you all the best, do not be too hard on your self as you did not mean for this to happen.
You did what you did with good intention.

God Bless

Jan 23, 2012
Thank you so much
by: Carol

You may have just saved my Cherry-headed conure's life by sharing your sorrow with others. I am so sorry for your loss. We thought our conure was a male until she laid eggs. I was talking to my sister on the phone and crying that I thought my bird was dying because she was staying on the bottom of the cage. My son said MOM Rio (now Ria) just payed an egg!

But why I am writing is because I just put a puppy pad in her cage and googled to see if it was ok and believe me, I have removed it!

Thank you for saving my bird's life! She is over 20 and so precious to me.

Oct 14, 2010
My little girl conure died in my hands yesterday because of my ignorance!
by: Linda

Cara, I am very sorry for your loss. and I thank you for your eloquent words that not only express your sorrow for the loss of your lovely bird, but also the love you had for her.

As for safe household products, most of the products you find in the grocery store are poison for birds, cats and most dogs. Never use bleach, ammonia or Lysol type products. Tracie has a bird safe cleaner out here( Pet Focus ), and it comes in a concentrated form which can be mixed with water and is a very economical alternative to all the other poisons grocery stores sell. Even room deoderizers are killers of birds just like perfume including that found in dryer sheets. Buy organic clothes washing products, and Drugstore.com carries several kinds. Pet Focus can be used to clean not only bird cages and floor but also their toys, kitchens, bathrooms and other household cleaning jobs. It is called Pet Focus and is available in several sizes.

For cleaning up puppy pee and poop, there's a product called Nature's Miracle and it is sold in a gallon container and used straight from the jug after being put into a plastic plant sprayer. It is an ezymatic cleaner which literally eats the pee crystals and the poop and makes it easy to clean up. Spray it on, use a nylon brush on the poop to raise it up to the surface of carpet and then use a towel to dab it up. You may have to use it twice and once it dries, you just vacuumn it up. It is non-toxic and has no harmful fumes to hurt birds or cats and is also economical to buy.

With the Pet Focus, make sure it is not sprayed where any can get on birds or in their eyes. Take out toys that need washing, spray some on them and rinse them well and allow to dry before putting back in cage. You can spray some on a cloth to clean cages and spray some on the bottoms and grates, and the poop will come off much easier. Make sure you spray everything out of bird's room or area to make sure none gets into the air and into birds eyes or mouths. Though it is non-toxic, this does mean it won't hurt them if it gets into their eyes or mouth or nose, so err on the side of caution with any kind of cleaner even those non-toxic ones. The Pet Focus can be used for all cleaning jobs and will cost less than all your other cleaning products combined.

The other thing is never use any kind of puppy pad or bedding products with birds as they may eat it plus whatever they treat them with is also poison for birds. Use only clean, non-printed newspaper. You can find this at your local newspaper office where they have partially used rolls of paper that has not been printed on. This is a very cheap cage liner and if bird happens to get a hold of some will not harm them.

We have ALL made very bad mistakes from ignorance, so please don't be too hard on yourself.

Thanks for writing, and we are always here if you have more questions,
Linda

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