Quaker putting a strain on marriage
Dear kind vet: I apologize in advance for this long email. I am at my wits end with my 11y/o male quaker. He has always been an active, vocal bird. He is entertaining and my little buddy. The big problem is the strain on my marriage of 26yrs! He adores my husband (MH), who wants nothing to do with the bird. He wimpers when MH leaves the room. He yaps incessantly beginning when MH gets up in the morning, when he hears MH in another room, until MH either leaves the house or pays attention to him. Those interactions usually end with a bite.
I've tried to educate MH in handling with no luck.
Bucho (boo-cho) is fed Pretty Bird mixed with fruit Zupreem and seeds. He is offered other fresh vegetables and fruit, pasta,rice, bread. I waste 7/8 of his seemingly untouched food (pellets) along with both developed and downy feathers every morning when changing the cage paper.
I've noticed he does not dunk his food like my friend's female quaker. He always seems nervous picking and plucking. He enjoys frequent baths. I am thinking he may be malnourished. I cannot get him to drink vitamins mixed in water.
His home is on the main floor in a room that is used occasionally. The cage is good size, against a wall. He can see out the window, but is not right by it. He is provided oak twigs and paper to shred and build with.
When he is very noisy, I place him in a slightly smaller cage in the basement. This cage is right by a patio door. I have a towel over half of the top for hiding. He seems calmer,and is quiet here. And-he doesn't pluck! Sometimes he is down there for hours alone when we have company too.
I don't know what to do. It seems he is nervous with his "flock" around and calm when alone.
He is good w/regards to general health, although a bit underweight at 4oz.
I would appreciate any insights you have on the above issues: The husband, food, and cage placement. Thank you so much!